#sweetutterings
Let’s talk sub drop. A very true very irking reality. Yes it can happen to Dom/Dommes too but I have not experienced this… I ramble only about my realities in my musings. (Before I get a lecture 🙃)
I am not an oracle in any respect and there are many blogs here that reference aftercare and safe BDSM practices. So if you wish to research this more, then google away or ask one of the beings on here who do offer advice in this field. But what I do wish to reference is that regardless of how attentive your Dom is during your aftercare, sub drop can still set in. If you know you know. But my subdrops usually come the day after an incredible session. I’ve had the best time, I’ve received all the dopamine that my brain can handle. I felt sexy and protected. Then that pang of abandonment, sometimes the uncertainty of knowing whether you pleased or not, that need for another hit of happy. The need to be needed? The need to be wanted? Now my Dom cannot be with me or in contact with me all day everyday and in reality I would not want that but the bratty me who pushes all boundaries for a reaction, she does. I spoke in one of my last utterings about feeling safe and how that is an ultimate turn on for me. Well this is the limbo in what I am being trained on right now. That safe doesn’t also mean together or present. That connection is still there even when we are not in contact. If I have struck a cord or I have resonated with even an iota of your experience then my 10p for what it’s worth…. Remember to look after yourself! Selfcare is just as important as aftercare. It is your Dom’s responsibility yes, to provide aftercare, but it is YOUR responsibility to continue it. My routine afterwards is always the same…. To you it may be ridiculous to me it is “reset”. Long walk, bath, journal, loungewear and lots of naps the next day. I try my best to avoid alcohol because I need to actively process and alcohol makes everything more complicated. And yes my life and sex life is already complex enough!
Apologetic as always for my ramblings and any typos of course!
Your Sweets x
#somethingsweet #sweetutterings
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