Making Your Profile Private - What to Expect

Seller Tips For Sellers Sellers’ Perspective

Hello again! I wrote this blog in hopes of answering a very common question I get and hopefully give some perspective on the subject. I would like to say that even though I am in sex work and enjoy doing it, that it has been a journey of exploring my boundaries and establishing that I would like to be treated with respect like a person and not just as a sex object for just any person’s use.

When I first started out here I definitely had some hurdles to jump through and it was quite hard to be taken seriously. After gaining some sales and educating myself on topics, I became much more confident and finally had a clear vision for my future in the kink and fetish world. I often get asked “Why are you private?”.

I have had many conversations around this exact topic. One particular conversation went a little something like this:

Buyer: “ It doesn’t make sense for you to go private, we can’t see what we are shopping for. You would never go shopping in retail like this. I would never buy from a private store……”

Except there are plenty of businesses who have a very similar model. Think about big brands that you have to pay a subscription for. You can not see their items or content until you pay. There are plenty of exclusive clubs and stores of many varieties that you have to buy into in order to have access.

Controlling who follows my content

However, going private allows me to control who follows my content and page. I have learned, after some experience here, what the signs of a time-waster look like and I have had my page spammed by people before. When you click that follow button (as a buyer) I go directly to your profile to read your bio (if you even have one) and read your reviews (if you have those) and decide if I want to engage or block.

If you are brand new and have nothing set up, I usually shoot you a message and wait for a response. Often if I do not get a response back, I deny the request. A simple hello back is all I need, especially if you have no interactions on record. How do I know you are a real buyer? A simple response shows me quite a bit about you, whether you think so or not. If someone has had a profile for over a month and has zero reviews and no profile I send a message inquiring why.

Again a no response back gets an x or a block. I understand that some people just want to look around before engaging or opening chat, and that is fine. But if you fall into these categories and do not even respond with a simple hello out of courtesy, I will assume you either just want to use my pictures or lack respect for the time it took me to reach out and start any future interactions we may have.

I think it is pretty fair to say that admin does a great job of dealing with time wasters when it gets to that point, but I wanted to be proactive on my own personal page and avoid things like people spam commenting on my posts and starting silly conversations that lead nowhere and certainly not to a sale.

I do go public while I update my shop and this happens about once a month and I stay public for about 3 days. This lets people who may be too shy to hit that follow button get a peek of what I have to offer without having to engage with me directly.

I do love to have a good friendly chat and I learn quite a bit just being open and curious with people. But as someone who homeschools, runs a business from home outside of my ATW business and cares for my family, I can get quite busy and I simply don’t always have the time or the patience to talk about things endlessly that have zero to do with ATW or kink/ fetish.

Does a conversation always have to be about sales?

Absolutely NOT! But I want to feel as though I can carry those types of conversations on when I have the time and energy for them and not just because you want my free attention. Feeling pressured is a huge turn off for me.

Being a private profile does not mean I am any less open, friendly or willing to work with people. It does mean however that I have a little more control over what happens on my page and who has access to it. Just like some people do not show face for safety and privacy reasons, I choose to be private for similar reasons.

If you are a new seller and we have very little or no interaction at all, it is very likely I will just let your request sit for a few days while I watch and see how you interact online. I am generally happy to help new sellers and give advice or answer a few quick questions but it can be overwhelming sometimes and often I never get a thank you. I have become a bit more reserved with new sellers and generally wait for them to approach me now. As a seller requesting access to another seller's page, I do kind of expect you to initiate the conversation.

Have you considered going private?

Have you considered going private? Well, let’s talk about if that makes sense for you. What is the reason behind going private? Is it your real-life vanilla job? Afraid a family member might stumble onto the site? Have you experienced harassment on social media before and are timid now?

There are decent reasons for going private, but does it make sense for you or as a new seller? Going private will obviously limit access to your page, so you need to establish your business first! You may consider not showing face at first (or ever) and get your profile in order and a few sales under your belt!

There are many factors to consider when you are starting off here or have never been private before!

Do we know who you are??

Do you have a niche? Knowing what you want to sell specifically doesn’t hurt you. Yes, you can definitely sell just a niche market of ass pictures if you please. I will say though you need to be confident, consistent, and maintain that. If that’s your thing and that is what you are sticking to, make sure you learn and continue to learn and research everything there is to know about it! Reaching your audience through targeted knowledge and know-how will give you so much more of an advantage than just pushing sales. Engage your audience. Why is it attractive? Why is it a kink or a fetish? You should be knowledgeable about your niche and open to dialogue.

Making yourself stand out from the crowd

Even if you do not have a niche, have you at least branded yourself? Are you recognizable when you post? This is seriously important!!! Branding yourself helps you stick out of the sea of sellers here. What makes you unique? You want to have someone recognize you without you having to try too hard to be noticed. We should be able to pick you out of the crowd.

I would say your bio is a very important part of this branding. Your bio is a place to establish what kind of seller you are and what your general interests are as a seller. Having 2 lines in your bio without being established tells the buyer you are either not confident or do not put much effort into things.

Selling yourself as a seller

Consider this, you are selling yourself. You are the brand. So if someone is interested in YOU and they click on your profile and there is nothing there to tease the imagination or engage people, then you are going to struggle. Your bio is often the first point of contact with a buyer and other sellers when they click on your picture. You want them to be interested and want them to want to know more. Branding does not have to be complicated, just consistent.

It could really be simple things like editing your photos to have a border on them in every picture or watermarking your pictures with your name. Simple, but you will stand out. Consider what catches your attention. Do not flat out copy other sellers but certainly gain inspiration and wisdom from established sellers. Often if you sit back and watch, you will learn a lot.

How to engage with the community

Now that you have a brand or a niche, have you built a following or have an audience? How often are you getting engaging contact on your posts? Posting consistently and on a regular schedule will improve your following. Be sure to respond to people. Especially when you are new and just getting started. It is important and beneficial to leave an emoji here and there and say thank you to positive comments. Kindness can take you far. Is it consistently the same people interacting with you?

Have they committed to hitting that follow button on your page? (I am not referring to humiliation posts, that’s an entirely different subject). It is acceptable to build on these interactions, in fact, I highly encourage you to do so! Talk to people on the dashboard and in messages. If someone shows interest do not be afraid to keep the interaction going until it naturally fades out.

Do you demand attention in your posts?

And no, I do not mean whining and complaining to get the attention. I mean, is there power behind your posts? You want people's eyes to be drawn to them. This can be part of your branding or just having nice photos, to begin with. You may be thinking, “well what about plain text style posts?” Plain text posts can be fun and exciting too! Is it a conversation starter? Is it enlightening into your day, personality, lifestyle, hobbies, kinks, your personal thoughts? Are you large and in charge or are you flirty and bashful? Again the goal is to have people get to know you as a seller and entice them to want to get to know you more.

Will going private hurt my sales?

My biggest piece of advice for keeping your sales up is to be active!! Engage as much as possible. It is absolutely ok to message a buyer first. But I often see people using a common cold call pitch that they copy and paste into every buyer's inbox. That does not give a personal and friendly feel. It is quite robotic and feels a little spammy. I often see buyers mention this. Be friendly and be open to starting genuine conversations. It can be hard to do this if someone has no bio! I definitely struggle with this too.

How do I possibly start a conversation with someone and get them to want to engage with me if I know absolutely nothing about them? I often resort to telling them something about myself or even asking them a simple question about themselves. Sometimes I get no response. LOL and at that point, I just leave it alone. I do not want to spam someone or pressure them into interacting with me if they are not interested.

Final thoughts

Why did I write this long blog??

I wrote this for several reasons. It answers many questions I get from buyers and sellers. I am hoping this gives some insight into why some sellers choose to go private and why that shouldn’t deter any buyers from shooting us a simple hello.

I also hope that this helps other sellers who may be new and have some questions about being private or privacy in general. And maybe you just considered going private but you were afraid it would hurt your image or your sales in general.

Hopefully I have accomplished that through opening up about my personal experiences. Thank you for sticking it out and reading to the end! Have a happy and kinky day!!

By PorcelainWitch23

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