Mental Health, Selling and Me!

Seller Sellers’ Perspective

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A vital conversation

Discussing mental health is vital. It doesn’t matter if you sell or buy, it’s an important topic. I’ve said before it may not seem sexy, but I hate to break it to you selling and buying isn’t all glamour, we need to have open and honest conversations.

An open book

I am very open as a person, but I’ve not always been that way, I’ve battled with my mental health for many years but I’m finally in a place where I’m comfortable enough to be open about it, here I am, this is me! I feel nothing but good things about that, I’m not shying away or hiding who I am.

But what if?

But what if someone is turned off by it? Well, I simply don’t care, but I know it may be a concern to others, we feel we have to present this perfect front as sellers that we can’t be anything other than what we think is desired and honestly, I think that goes for buyers as well. The point I’m getting at is if someone is turned off from working with you because you’ve expressed your mental health struggles in any way then please don’t let it get to you, be proud of yourself for being open and also don’t let your mind trick you into thinking it’s anything else, that you’re not good enough or whatever particular vile an intrusive thought is spewing

My mental health

While I may be open this is isn’t any easier to write because I’m exposing myself, I’m putting myself out there in this blog for you all to read! I have an anxiety disorder as well as OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) and a few other things going on.

Selling and my mental health

Selling has given me boosts in ways I can’t describe, my confidence has grown, my ability to shake things off has become easier over time however some days are harder than others. I may be having a bad day off site and then I’ll come on and start comparing myself or get left on read and my intrusive thoughts creep in, I can be quite hard on myself, I assume it’s me but I know deep down it isn’t but when you struggle with mental health those days it’s harder to just shrug it off and remember I’m fine as I am! I’m human, I’ve said that countless times but it’s true, it would be a lie to say I don’t have bad days, but I also have many great days. I struggle with my self-esteem still and again I compare and fall into that trap, so I try do my best to counteract it with other things. I will reread my reviews, work on listings, chat with others or sometimes just come off and do something for me. I know I talk about not comparing a lot and I mean what I say but I also know it’s not always easy.

I’m still sexy.

My mental health doesn’t define me, it’s a small part of who I am! I don’t allow it to steal away my good qualities. It doesn’t stop me loving what I do, it doesn’t stop me being sexy or fun and I never think I’m weak or deserve anything but respect. My vulnerabilities make me human, am I perfect? No! Is anyone? No! When you chase perfection, you lose sight of all the good in you, I’ve learned to take what I used to think was “weird” and instead embrace it, I embrace all of me. Perfection is a myth.

I want you to know.

You need to know you’re not alone; I may be quite vocal about my feelings, but I do it with good intentions, don’t ever feel you are anything less than amazing if you struggle with your mental health. You’re not weak, you’re the total opposite. If any of you ever need a chat I’m here, please don’t hide it, don’t bottle things up. I’m hugely passionate about this topic because I feel it’s overlooked, it’s a misconception that we have to always be fun loving, exciting, enticing and so on, again we are ALL HUMAN!

Think outside the site!

We all have lives outside of this, please remember that!! It’s vital! You don’t know what’s going on in someone’s life, just be kind, just think. There is so much stigma around what happens here and there is still stigma around mental health, yes, I know this is a buying and selling site but for some it’s an escapism, however that looks to them or you should be respected.

What if I’m struggling to balance my mental health with selling or buying?

We need to honest with ourselves, if there is something going on here that is affecting you take a step back, allow yourself some time, be kind to yourself. Your mental wellbeing always needs to come first, you need to come first! Selling and buying can wait. Don’t ever feel you can’t take a break if needed, don’t feel guilty for saying no! If you’re not in the headspace consider what you feel is best, go grab a drink, go for a walk, do something that’s not related to the site and come back to it when you’re ready.

Any advice?

Apply self-care, that could be eating your favourite food, talking to a friend or family member, watching something you enjoy. Take a break if you need it. Anxiety, depression and so on are lying! Your strong, you’re amazing, you’re nothing those intrusive thoughts tell you that you are. You will be ok! Write a list of things that help you that you can refer to on your bad days.

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