How ATW Helped Me Find Myself In My 30’s

By Kinks_and_curves 1459 views 11th Feb 2025

Seller Motivational Sellers’ Perspective How ATW Helped Me Find Myself In My 30’s

Let’s start with why

Why am I writing this blog? I have a passion for writing, and I've realized that sharing my thoughts and being more authentic has greatly benefited me. Sharing and expressing myself brings me joy, it’s who I am and maybe by being open I can help others. I truly believe that being part of this community has contributed to my growth in countless ways!

Expressing myself and sharing my thoughts brings me joy; it's an essential part of my identity. By being open, I hope to inspire and assist others along the way.

This site, the relationships I have built and continue to build and the kinks have been a huge part of me finding myself , they have been such a huge part of my self discovery and self love journey.

Learning to Be Comfortable With Myself

It’s taken me many years to start to love who I am , it’s nowhere near a finished project but honestly who can say it is? I think self love and acceptance is a never ending journey.

I always thought being comfortable with who I am is a one stop ride, that I’ll just learn to accept who I am and that’s it, but it’s not. It’s about remembering to be self compassionate on the bad days and remembering who I am and how far I’ve come. I find myself curious about whether the saying "with age comes wisdom" actually holds true!

How Kink Helped Me Find Myself

Kink is part of me, it has been for several years. It’s always been about finding a home for it, a place that it can be nurtured and explored. I found that here and in doing so, I have learned tons about myself.

I learned how creative and passionate I am. How much I truly enjoy sex and kink. I’ve unlocked things in me that I didn’t know existed. I discovered that I am this sensual woman who has a thirst for the depraved , the naughty , the taboo.

I adore kink. I adore the way it makes me feel. The sheer excitement I feel is beyond words . Yes, I knew I was kinky! I always felt a bit out of place or odd but I’ve discovered I don’t care and that it’s ok to feel how I do. Kink has helped me discover myself and embrace the beauty of sex, lust and desire.

Age is just a number

I’m 36. And if I’m honest, that number has terrified me. I’ve worried that I’m “past it,” that I’m not young and sexy anymore. But quite frankly, I don’t feel my age. I don’t always act it either (though, really, what is a 36-year-old even supposed to act like?).

But in reality numbers mean nothing! And there is something beautiful to appreciate about being in my 30s. It’s the experience, yes, but I really have discovered myself and learned so much. Looking back, I wasn’t prepared to do that when I was younger, I wasn’t ready.

In my 30s, my willingness, determination, and drive have grown stronger than ever.

So, yes, age is just a number! It’s not something to define you. I worry that I’m thrown on the scrap pile by some, purely because of my age. However, on the flip side, maturing and being in my age bracket has taught me not to care.

Doing what makes me happy

I have developed an attitude of I’m gonna do what I want, what makes me happy. People can either support that or stand aside. At what point do you stop seeking the approval of others?

Being on the site has hugely helped me with developing a more self loving mentality. I am fully aware that I’m not everyone’s cup of tea but I do what makes me happy. I indulge in kinks I enjoy and do things the way I want. Not everyone will think the same or agree, but that’s not my concern. What others do isn’t our concern , it’s the same with kink, it may not be your thing but if someone else is happy, let them be happy!

Rediscovering me

Buried underneath years of self-doubt and self-consciousness is a woman with ambition, with drive, with ideas. With clothes she’s dying to wear but has worried too much about what others think.

For so long, I pushed parts of myself down because it was easier to fake a smile and pretend. But that wasn’t making me happy. That was making others comfortable.

Now? I’m learning to love myself again. I’m finding the real me.

And this isn’t just about me—it’s about everyone who has ever felt like they needed to shrink themselves to fit in.

You deserve to take up space. You deserve to be who you are and pursue what makes you happy. Take off the mask and be free.

Kink has helped me so much. It’s helped me realize who I am and what I want. And being here, connecting with others, has helped me grow into a version of myself I’m truly proud of.

I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes:

Lions don’t lose sleep over the opinions of sheep.

Thank you for reading.

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