Findom 101: Essential Tips Every New Domme Should Know

Hor0069 By Hor0069 3107 views 26th Sep 2025

Seller Findom Tips For Sellers Sellers’ Perspective Findom 101: Essential Tips Every New Domme Should Know

I joined Findoms Only, at the end of June, and I have previously had experience as a domme elsewhere. This blog is just a quick insight of what I’ve learnt, since being here. I’m hoping it’ll help someone out. I do not think I am an expert but I just felt the time was right for me to share a few simple things 😜 This is written in the aim to help new dommes, I may add another blog in time.

The must do list, in my opinion.

  • Get verified, before anything else.
  • Profile picture, good quality pictures and update your bio. Letting subs know what you expect, and what kinks you do/do not do.
  • Remember EVERY sub is different, has different kinks and wants.
  • Remember EVERY sub is different, has different kinks and wants.
  • Demanding money will not work.
  • Consent is paramount ( do not call subs names, do not send spins/drains without consent.
  • If you see another game going ahead, that does not mean message the sub multiple times demanding!
  • When you see other dommes having a good time, do not become negative and always be supportive.
  • Remember there is room for multiple dommes, new subs join daily.
  • Do not go into instant ownership, within an hour or two of being on site. Ownership needs to be done correctly or owned subs lurk, go behind the dommes back and then things become tricky. Subs need to prove they are worthy of being owned, if they can’t prove it why would you want to own them?
  • Do not message owned subs ( I did this once, complete mistake on my part as a new domme on the site) if you do, own up to your mistakes rectify this issue with the domme and the sub and most of all apologise for your stupidity and most importantly self reflect on how you can do things better.
  • Build a strong, powerful community with your other dommes.
  • Always be kind, unless your paid to not be 😈😜
  • Only use humiliation, when the sub wants this. Not every sub is a loser or a pig
  • Offer after care discussion sessions with your subs, humiliation and giving money under their findom kink can be a daunting process. Discuss in detail how the sub is feeling, what they liked/didn’t like to understand them better and to ensure they are not left in a head space that could be detrimental to them.
  • Do NOT under any circumstances copy and paste another dommes bio, posts or listings. Unless you go to that domme and she has given permission. We pay for the privilege of being there; so we expect our posts to be our own.
  • Be a decent human being, and always be kind 🖤
  • There are many terms, pay pig, cash cow, whales. Being realistic, not many are on the site BUT when you find a good one, they are good they come out from hiding every so often. But smaller amounts, and often also add up over time, don’t be disheartened if you don’t have the biggest drain or largest amount to cash out at the end of the week. There are some subs who like to join with nothing in their wallet, you’ll fish them out quickly for them. Don’t waste your time, or energy just move along swiftly.

Findoms Only is a crazy place to be a part of. The love and support from most on there is unreal.

The lack of knowledge of financial domination is a worry throughout the site at the minute. Please if you read this, and you are wanting to sign up and have never done Findom before. At least research this before you join. For newbies when you join, before you jump in and demand money. Learn the site, learn where to find things, how to set things up. Take a few hours, ask questions on the dash for multiple responses from both dommes and subs or privately to some dommes we all like to help. Knowledge to ensure when you have a sub asking for something you know exactly where to go and what to do.

Learn the difference between the different games on site, wallet drains, spin the wheel. How to set up a debt contract. Without knowing this stuff you’ll miss out on some good opportunities. I’ve personally seen this happen a few times. Lack of knowledge in this field can get you to lose a potential sub. There are multiple pieces of information available on the site, or within blogs. Take your time, don’t run before you can walk.

Most of all, be fun, be creative with posts and listings. Enjoyment of this kink, shows. Subs know who is there for a quick few hundred and who’s in it for the commitment, loyalty and real worship not just the money. Financial domination when done correctly is a beautiful, long lasting connection with two people which blossoms more over time.

My saying has and will always be, KNOWLEDGE IS POWER. 🖤


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