From Body Dysmorphia to Body Confidence

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Seller Sellers’ Perspective From Body Dysmorphia to Body Confidence

Hello, I’m GoddessDesiree, fiancée, mother of 3 and a woman with an eating disorder and body imaging issues ?

I’ve slightly debated writing this, but what the hell! With the possibility it could explain me as a person a bit better, and help someone else in a similar boat, What’s the worst that could happen?

I started All Things Worn in February 2023, but decided to take myself off for a few weeks as I wasn’t sure I had the confidence in me to do so.

Even after coming back, this thought still flies through my head sometimes quite viciously. but I’m more confident than I’ve ever been, let me explain why.

I had my first child at 17, I’ve carried big 3 times and my body stretched all over, this includes my back, my thighs, my arms, my breasts, and of course my stomach.

The Start of The Problem.

I was in a very abusive relationship for a long time, more so after having a child, being told my body was a reminder of a zebra crossing, being laughed at and being told I’m too fat and being cheated on consistently. I found myself being the women who hid her body under oversized jumpers, wearing my hood up and relying on cannabis to bring a smile to my face.

After getting myself away from this situation I lost 3 stone, and I had that slight confidence and the attention I craved after being told nobody would ever find me desirable again.

New relationship arises, wonderful! NOT. I’ve gone back round in a circle. the same comments thrown at me, knocked me all the way back down again, gained back all the weight I’d lost, hair falling out, always crying “why aren’t I good enough? Will I ever be?”

Fast forward! I fell pregnant with my second after finding love and trust in a new partner the thought of ever being bigger to me again scared the life out of me, but I knew in my heart I’d be loved and admired by him.

After having my baby, I had to go through all of that again, losing 3 stone and looking in the mirror at my body and tearing up and thinking ‘Why is this happening to me? I’m only 21…’ I was already prepared to keep my body hidden forever, from my partner, from anybody.

After having my 3rd baby, within a few weeks people were saying to me “you’re too thin” “you need to eat more” “you look terrible” “you look unwell”.

I was thinner than I was pre pregnancy, in fact thinner than I’d ever been. But still looking in the mirror in size 6-8 clothing that’s too loose and feeling absolutely vile, crying and just wanting to wrap myself up in a blanket and hide.

After a while I found myself going to the doctors and after tests and appointments, I was told I have the eating disorder Anorexia Nervosa.

Anorexia is a big battle to win, pair that with body dysmorphia? It’s a party.

Getting on those scales every day, 4 times a day, … I’ve gone up by 1lb since this morning and I’m bloated?! Now all of a sudden you begin to notice every single flaw you THINK you have, just in that 1lb difference.

This is Where All Things Worn Comes In.

Casually browsing the internet, and I’d read something about selling feet pictures, I was thinking HMMM wouldn’t that be a dream? Somebody would pay to see my feet, yeah alright! ?

I joined ATW and realised it’s more than feet pictures, I can see all these beautiful confident women, I can see fetishes of my own normalised! I see body’s being embraced. It’s beautiful.

I remember first receiving messages complimenting my beauty and my body, OH ALSO MY FEET! ?

I felt this instant feeling of CONFIDENCE.

That’s a great word isn’t it? To be and to feel confident, a feeling I hadn’t felt for a long time, and after a while I’ve f*cking smashed it, but I wouldn’t have if it wasn’t for this community ?

Sometimes my mood will get shot down naturally and I’ll shy away from things until I’m feeling it, and hopefully this will explain why. There’s still a long road ahead for me, which is why you tend to see more photos of my face then my body on the dash ?

Sometimes who you may believe is the most confident woman isn’t. Treat anybody in this world the way you’d wish to be treated yourself, our appearance doesn’t define who we are inside ?

I truly have met some amazing people through ATW, people I’ll keep near and dear to me for a very long time ?

If you’ve taken the time to read this, thank you. Stay beautiful, humble and remember that kindness always wins ?

GoddessDesiree xx