I make no secret of saying that I hate the term SW. It’s alright... I don’t need the stern talking to about it, I am a Sex Worker. I can say it aloud (in a group of understanding peers of course) without shuddering. But still, the seedy connotations of it echo. And this irks me.
I am a lover of words you see. And words are powerful. And I feel the term “sex work” does not do me or any of my fabulous peers justice. Yes, it is an umbrella term that covers the spectrum of this lascivious world. But oh to unpick that. Because between us all here on ATW, there are befrienders, pick~me~uppers, confidence builders and boosters, keepers of secrets, mistresses, satisfiers, advisors, pleasure seekers, givers and takers, councillors, comedians and shrewd business people. All terms that I do not see in the dictionary to define sex workers.
That little message you send to a client may be the only check-in they get that day. The photo you share on the feed may lift more than someone’s spirit. The customs and wears that you sell, provide a release and an electric pleasure for another human. The impact that online sex workers have on others varies from a pleasant interaction to a lustful luxury. A positive impact. Sex workers should be celebrated and still, they are not.
Several periods throughout history around the world respected and celebrated their sex workers. The Auldtrides of Greece, the Oiran of Japan, the Italian Courtesans and the Ganika from India. All were revered as they were not only sex workers but they had talents, they were permitted to study and were able to secure positions to influence those in power. And of course, they had wealth, not the wealth of men but their own independent earnings.
So why in 2022, in a world where you can be anything, wear anything… are we still judged for working in this field. Celebrity backsides are celebrated in the mainstream media earning them tens of thousands of pounds. Society scrolls through their feeds to see each cleavage snap, thigh-high slit or bikini shoot and this is considered acceptable…. So where is the line? When does ok become not ok? When does confidence and beauty become seedy promiscuity?
Work is work. Work is often challenging, tiresome, boring, and fun. We work to earn money. Sex work is no different. No matter your principles, whether you insert objects into your vagina, rub one out on camera, send a sexy message or post out your chewed fingernails… If it relates to the buyer’s kink or results in them getting hot under the collar, then it’s sex work. And no one is posting out a pair of panties to a stranger here just for “the fun of it”.
One might be selling to make their living, to pay a debt, as a side hustle, or to pay for the rising cost of utility bills. Regardless, it is out of a need for cash.
Work is work. Not all work is good work. Some days work can be decent, and positive, some days not so much.
We provide relief, counsel, company and joy to a wide audience for a fee… whether we enjoy it that day or not. We deal in intimacy. We recreate scenarios that many wish they had with a real lover or spouse.
Buyers here on the whole understand this. The relationships and connections we make here can often be as valuable as IRL friendships. It doesn’t negate the fact that we have a buyer/seller relationship or that money is exchanged for a service.
However, it is two people respecting one another, aiming to fulfil their needs. But those who look in, the outsiders, the non-participants, they hold the majority of the judgement. Are they misinformed, narrow-minded, or driven by what their religions preach?
Perhaps part of the issue is the laws and barriers that we encounter in trying to sell our services. you can’t have an app for a risqué site, you can’t use certain payment services. We are surrounded by red tape that deems Sex Work as something to be hidden, to be forced into the shadows. This allows the righteous to judge.
Until the world becomes as refreshing and as open-minded as this community, I think I will always cringe at the term “sex work” because I know that some of the world perceives it differently. That’s why I’m so grateful to have a platform such as ATW to play from, engage with and to meet my tribe.
It pleases me to see it grow each day because with growth becomes mainstream acceptance. So thanks @admin... thanks for letting me be kinky and for it to be more than just sex work… it is good sex work.
I’m Gia. SomethingSweet. Keeper of Secrets. Fulfiller of fantasies. Wordsmith and sex worker. “
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