Finding My Place in ATW

By Sammie26 886 views 9th Mar 2026

Seller

I’ve now been on ATW for about 6 months, which is wild because I still feel like a newbie with so much to learn.

When I first made my account I was fairly new to this world. The first couple of weeks I didn’t post anything, I just sort of… existed on the sidelines, watching, scrolling, researching.

Imagine the shy girl standing outside the party before going in, pretending to check her phone to not look awkward while also figuring out where she’s supposed to stand. Yup, that’s me.

I’ve always been the shy girl so starting this account was already me pushing myself out of my comfort zone. I’ve always been a curious person though, and what better place to discover yourself than a panty selling website full of strangers? Exciting and intimidating all at the same time.

So there I was, hiding in the shadows, checking the vibes. But everywhere I looked it seemed like buyers were all after the same things.

Hard dommes
Commanding personality
Cruel energy and hard humiliation

I remember thinking, well that’s not me at all.

I’m more the kind of girl who would laugh mid sentence. The kind who tries to be sexy and then my vibrator won’t turn on so I’m just there smacking it like a TV remote. The kind who slips in the bath halfway through an orgasm during a custom video.

Not exactly intimidating…

It’s hard to not compare yourself to other people, and the more I did that the more I felt out of place.

Which was confusing as I identify as a switch. I do have a domme side, but it’s more gentle, soft, and teasing. And I love my submissive side too — the sassy and bratty sub that wants to please her dom but will still give him hell for it 🤭

For a while it felt like I wasn’t enough of anything.

Not cruel enough
Not domme enough
Not submissive enough

I felt like I had to be someone I wasn’t — this persona that was really far from me.

So I decided to just lean into… Sammie. My quirks, my awkward moments, my amazing sense of humor (yeah, I know!), and just my cute chaos energy.

I stopped worrying about how to act and started doing what felt fun. I posted more about my everyday life, little rambles, and just my unfiltered self. And funnily enough the right people started finding me.

Turns out I didn’t need to be louder or meaner. I just had to show up as the cheeky, cute chaos little version of myself.

After six months, I feel like I carved a little corner for myself here instead of trying to squeeze into someone else’s.

So I guess now I have my own party going on, and you’re all invited to join and be your chaotic selves. But remember to buckle up — it’s going to be a bumpy ride!

Join us for free and start your journey!

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Comments

XXKinkyTeaXX Thank you for writing this I have felt the same and right now still do. Thank you again.

HiddenGamerGoddessXX Thanks for posting this. I have felt similarly.

OliviaLane Love it! You rock girl

JulJulie I love this honey💕

MissMollys_Worldxx I love this so much ! 🥰

KrookedOrchid That's wonderful journey I also have been here for 6 months and felt very similar. I think genuine having fun is one of the most amazing things we can do as creators and it comes off that way in videos ! Hey getting bigger and bigger 🌸😈🌸

PrincessBxox I love this 👄 you go girl xxx

Dmo Refreshing! As a buyer who's definitely not after those things, I applaud you for sticking with your genuine self.

Tech_Girl_17 Very relatable and an excellent read! Xoxo

GeePeeJay Fantastic stuff Sammie well done 👏🏻

Goddesshoneyyyy I loved this !!!!!

Brownie69 Throughly enjoyed this blog, a great read and something so many of us can relate to!! Soooo where’s this party at @Sammie26 👀👯‍♂️

Princessmills Absolutely smashed it out of the park with this blog, loved it and honestly helped me a lot too🖤

Blondebustybella1 Great blog 👏

CherryCrush Absolutely love this!!! Such a great read and very well written! Smashed it babes xx

HandOfTheQueen Oh my very relatable! Great read! Xx

Kezree19 Fantastic Blog @Sammie26 👏🏻👏🏻

Louisa_Xx Can relate to this so much. I truly believe your people will find you. Xx

Sadierae2025 @Sammie26 are you my soul sister? 😂 Oh how this resonated with me!

Xstrogen A lovely read by a lovely girly. ✨🫶🏻✨

XOMaria_Lou Absolutely loved this! Speaks such truth and volumes about ATW!!!! So so true to read as well! Thank you

GeordieGoddessxo I love you darling so so proud of you! Finally posted!! It’s deserved 👏❤️

Louisexo Love this!! Love you! Xx

S_reginacole_6 Coming out of the woodwork to say: I love you and you’re doing amazing 🫶🏽

Sammie26 Thank you so much for reading this 🥹🥲

Morgana18 Wonderful! It’s like I’m reading about myself. You’re a gorgeous woman! 💕

Fairylady Beautifully written by such a stunning soul. Your words feel deeply relatable in so many ways and yet they still carry a voice that is authentically you. I’m so proud of you for sharing something so genuine, and I feel truly lucky and blessed to call you my new friend. Keep shining honey🫶🏼🧚🏼

SoSoSophie STOP I loved this!!! As a newer seller who's also softer than some, this resonated with me so much. I'm so surprised you still feel like a newbie - you're definitely one of the sellers I see frequently on the dash and look up to! This was a great, fun write up and super inspirational for people like me. 🥹🫶💗

Studbaby26 Count me in on the guest list boo 🎉💃🏻 I loved this! If you’re gonna succeed with anything ESPECIALLY on here you just gotta be your authentic self and I’m so glad you made that space and are finding the people right for you 💕

Yourgothicgoddess13 i love this!🖤

Summersubstoday awesome. You've nailed it I think. A big part of the reason you've found your place and been so successful is because you've stopped to think about what you feel comfortable with and what you like...and you've focused really hard on doing the best you can at that, not trying to pretend to fit other areas just to "win business." You come across as authentic instead - and the right people love that. Good for you!

MatureJasmine Such a great read, thank you for sharing 😘

TigressTasha1 @Sammie26 this is beautiful and I love it.. actually reminds me of how I felt when I started, and I'm still not good with domme and humiliation 😘 This was really nice to read babe 💜

RedheadNextdoorUK I loved reading this 💕

Phasic I encourage everyone I speak to on here, to just be your own unique self. It's far more fun and interesting. We have a laugh together Sammie and yeah, you're alright ❤️

Brainyboo Belle you are awesome 🤗🤗🥰🥰 Queen of Chaos 😘😘😘

Jcarr93 So proud of you Pulcino 🐥 and thank god for the Sammie chaos life would be far to dull without it 🫶🏻 #1 Cute chaos seller 😘

Creamy_White_Female Love this!!

Skyla_rae Amazing, good read! ❤️

OliviaLane Congratulations on the blog you wrote. Great job💋

Missembervex Gosh I feel like we are SO similar! I ft exactly like this. Being a hard domme is just not in my nature and I love to look after people and also have to take the piss out of myself because sometimes it’s all just too serious! Glad you’re finding your confidence with it and I’ll join you in the weird and giggly corner of the internet 🩷

PureJoy Fantastic darling....i can relate to a lot of this 💓 Your cute chaos energy is everything .....we adore you completely for it 🥰❤️

Fozzie76 Loved the read and glad I found your corner of cute chaotic carnality.

Your_play_thing Exactly what I needed to hear right now. Grazie Bella xxx

Sn92 What a blessing it is that you decided to lean into the chaos. Sammie Chaos is the best!

Elless You are so amazing and we are all beyond lucky to have you here with us! It wouldn’t be the same without you! 🖤🥰

BeardedBelgian You definitely found and earned your place on ATW... Never stop being yourself, because I absolutely adore you. Not a lot of sellers out there that can make you both horny and laugh. And I never imagined seeing Skittles content on ATW 🤯

Lucylouise Loved reading this gives me hope as a new seller still trying to find her space 🙂

BaileyBliss Love this! Relate so much x

HonVaz Sammie is an ATW LEGEND

Milkymumma As someone who jas recently joined this is really nice to hear, im not alone 🙊 x

Sammie26 Thank you so much everyone 💖💖

Kissthis Aww! I love this and totally relate to so much! I love seeing your cute chaos pop up on the dash! Keep it up babes cause we are here for it! 💋

Anya_P This is lovely and so relatable 🥲thank you for writing this ❤️❤️

JessyLux Amazingly put and sooo relatable! Xx

MissCharlotte Well said sweetie and happy to be part of your little corner here 🫶🫶

Heytheyarelovely Brilliant read ! So glad you found your place 🥰

Jamesgallagher this is a great blog, authenticity (especially things that subvert the dom stereotype) make interactions feel so much more real and intimate as a buyer, which ironically will make me feel more fulfilled and obedient as a sub. Just part of the reasons i’ve enjoyed working with you so much!