The Kinky Dictionary - A Guide to Commonly Used Terms in the Fetish Community

Seller Tips For Sellers Tips For Buyers

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Introduction

First off, thank you for taking a moment and giving my first ever blog! I’ll start with a little about myself! I’m a 32yr old female, from Wisconsin (hence Wisco 😂😅). I have been in the SW industry for the last 12 years, starting out as an exotic dancer and then making my way into the online world. I joined ATW in fall of 2020, under a different username. I left when I got pregnant and came back recently in June 2023. Since then, ATW has allowed me to stay home with my littles and do this full time, which I am EXTREMELY, thankful for. However, doing this full time is not for everyone! It can be extremely overwhelming at times and very quiet others. Being a seller takes hard work and dedication. It’s not as simple as just existing and being paid to exist. Earning money here takes work! What you put into it, can be what you get out.

I’ve been asked quite a bit lately, what is your advice for newbies, and that is this…

Take your journey at your own pace. Understand that your first sale may not come on the first month. Buyers love to see your personality shine through in your profile, listings, and your posts. NEVER underestimate your value. Be comfortable saying no! Be true to yourself and who you are, and the buyers you are meant to work with find you. If you are unsure about something, ASK! Most importantly, have fun with what you do here!!

So along with this, I’ve compiled a list of some common words used here, to assist both buyers and sellers. The definitions are not concrete and may vary user to user. I cannot express enough, to ask questions when working with someone so you can fully understand how they define things. I’m sure I missed some common terminology, so I do ask, if you think of anything else that would be important, please put it in the comments so we can build a “glossary” style resource for the users of ATW! Thank you so much for taking the time to read!

Common Terminology:

Fetish

A form of sexual desire in which gratification (orgasm) is strongly linked to a particular activity or a part of the body other than sexual organs.

Kink

Unconventional sexual taste or behavior

Dom/me

The Dominant person(s) within a dynamic (arrangement/relationship) [Goddess, Queen, Mistress, Mommy, Daddy, Master, Sir] - Dom - male dominant, Domme- female dominant

Sub

The Submissive person(s) within a dynamic (arrangement/relationship)

Alpha

Typically used to define a female’s male partner; dominant male

Sissy

A biological male submissive who partakes in feminization of oneself

Slave

An individual serving another in a consensual power exchange structured relationship

Beta

A man who is seen as passive, subservient, weak, and effeminate

Cuck

A male who enjoys watching women with other men (Alpha) sexually

Simp

Men who are seen as too attentive and submissive to women, in hopes of gaining some entitled sexual attention or activity from them.

Little

An age player, an adult person who behaves in a childlike manner

Femdom

Female domination

Findom

Financial domination

Dash Drain

A findom game, played on the public forum of ATW where the buyer and seller agree to terms of said game and requires voluntary participation from other users of ATW via comments and likes.

Humiliation Kink

The arousal one feels from being embarrassed whether privately or publicly.

Degrading Kink

Verbal, psychological, or physical degrading acts, such as insults, rough sex to embarrass the submissive.

Dick Rate

Giving feedback about a male’s genitalia - typically in fashion of honest, small penis humiliation or praise/worship.

Google Drive (G-drive)

A collection of pictures and or videos available for purchase in one area with varying lengths of access

Safe word

A word chosen to put an immediate stop to a session, should be respected and only used when necessary.

Fetish food

Food made with extra ingredients i.e. Foot dust amongst other things.

Vore

The erotic desire to consume or be consumed by another person or creature.

Mukbang

Viewers watch the host eat.

Chastity

A worn device used to prevent sexual activity on said person

Keyholder

The holder of the key for chastity device

Hard limits

Activities, substance, content, experiences etc that one does NOT want to participate in.

Edging

Prolonging orgasm in order to intensify sensation

Giantess

A female giant - superhuman in size, and strength

Common Abbreviations:

JOI

Jerk off instruction

CEI

Cum eating instruction

CNC

Consensual non consent

CBT

Cock and ball torture

NSFW

Not safe for work - contains explicit content

ABDL

Adult baby and diaper lovers

GFE

Girlfriend experience

Conclusion

There are so so many different interests here on ATW and new kinks/fetishes coming up every day. I cannot stress enough, if it is a term you are not familiar with, ask the person who posted the term. More often than not, the person will likely share what it means. Educating yourself can only help on this adventure.

Once again, feel free to add more in the comments! Happy interacting! My inbox is always open to help answer questions 🥰

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