I donāt respond to random messages from sellers I have not worked with before. I don't say this to be rude, but to avoid conversation that will go nowhere as I (generally) seek out the sellers I buy from.
If I like your post, Iām just trying to spread encouragement, itās not intended to be a hint.
A package of kinky toys that I purchased got "lost at a warehouse" by the shipping company. Fortunately it's being re-sent by the vendor so no harm done. However, I can't help but think someone at said warehouse opened it and I indirectly introduced them to the world of backside pleasure. #lubeincluded#hopetheyrehavingfun
I want to share some posts providing insight on my āhabitsā as a buyer. The way I use ATW has changed over time and I feel better and more āresponsibleā in my buying tendencies. Well, to an extent š .
Sometimes I canāt help but get the impression from a seller that theyāre wondering why I wonāt buy something from them. After all, if someone is attractive and sells something Iām interested in, why wouldnāt I order from them? Or, if I ordered from them before, why havenāt I returned in X number of days or months? Well, thereās many reasons.
The one I want to highlight today is that Iām - fortunately - generally satisfied. I always tend to have a handful of orders on the go and have ideas in mind for future orders, so I often lack spontaneous desire. There are listings that I will have in āSaved for Laterā for months and months.
Iāve found that orders, especially physical ones, are best when I have time to enjoy them independently. From experience, I learned that I donāt want 3 pairs of panties from 3 sellers at once. And because there are lovely sellers that I enjoy returning to, thereās only so many weeks in a year for me to order from a new-to-me seller.
I also donāt want an order to feel purely transactional without any desire or anticipation to go with it.
Even though I said Iām generally satisfied, thereās also a want for more that comes with this site. Sure, I wish that I could order more often from both new and repeat sellers, but I know that if I listened to that impulse Iād ultimately burn myself out, run out of money, and leave.
My overarching point is that while some buyers are here for impulsive purchases, some of us arenāt. Or at least, we try not to be š¤·āāļø
Realized I've developed a Pavlovian response to the sound of opening the mailbox because any time I open it and see a discreet package or envelope my eyes widen and I start to drool.
And if that's the incorrect usage of "Pavlovian response", let me live in ignorance.
Thereās not enough posts complaining about AI usage on ATW so Iām going to add another one. While I abhor using AI chatbots myself, the other day I spent some time prompting a few to generate profiles for selling panties and it took just a few minutes of effort to have something that looks the exact same as dozens of profiles Iāve seen lately.
I donāt understand why sellers think they can be trusted to provide a genuine experience when theyāre using AI to write for them and generate pictures for them. I find it very off-putting and disappointing.
This has given me greater appreciation for sellers who put in effort to showcase their own voice and write in their own unique way. Itās nice to see a bio where someone actually describes themselves rather than just having an essay length āmenuā. This doesnāt just apply to AI generated profiles, but when I see a bio that only describes what you sell, it makes me assume you donāt have a personality and would be a bore to order from.
Something weird that I notice with likes on dash posts is that when I'm on in the morning (around 8am est), there's at least 5-10 likes on the majority of seller's dash posts, when I assume it's primarily just the UK folks on. Then, when I'm on in the middle of the day, like right now (3pm est), when way more people are on across timezones, there's countless seller posts with 0 likes. Yet 99% of buyer posts have at least 10 likes, regardless of the time of day.
Maybe it's not that weird and it's just a symptom of more posts happening and nobody pressing "More" on the dash to go to the next page, but how is there thousands more people online and less interaction? š¤
I thought a good payday post would be bringing up the two Bs that contribute to a large portion of my block list: begging and bemoaning (bewailing? bitching?)
Before I ramble, the point I want to emphasize is this: Life sucks, the world sucks, people are miserable, times are tough. However, ATW is an escape and gives you an opportunity to present yourself how you want to be seen - desirable, not desperate.
Begging and pity partying that you NEED $x for rent, a phone bill, car payment, etc. is a complete turn off and red flag. As a buyer, I donāt want to order from you as I assume youāre going to be begging for more in the future, plus I canāt even trust youāre being honest (not that thereās any recent examples of this sort of dishonestyā¦). There is nothing wrong with having a listing for these things, setting a goal, or putting money towards something, but donāt beg.
Real paypigs and sugar daddies exist, however they are not plentiful and they do it out of attraction, not pity.
Bemoaning every day on the dash that all buyers are garbage, you arenāt selling anything, things are slow, etc. is annoying and makes you come off badly. Be mindful of how you look to other people. If youāre miserable, who do you think that will attract? Iām not being inhuman and saying you should never complain (although a public dash isnāt always the best place for this, but I digress) however donāt make this your whole personality.
Iām a buyer who has only recently started posting on the dash after years of looking at it, and over those years of looking I observed many sellers come off terribly. The buyers you want might be seeing how you act and actively avoiding you.
I wanted to write a couple points about word usage as I see this come up on the dash in varying ways. For me as a buyer, how words are used before and during an order affects my decision making.
First, sellers who treat buyers badly without the buyer giving them money are either a**holes or effectively giving out free kink talk (and thus donāt know what theyāre doing). I enjoy having a dynamic with a dominant woman who is incredibly mean to me during an order and incredibly nice conversationally - thatās how this is all supposed to work.
I was unfamiliar with these dynamics before joining ATW and had a false impression that dommes donāt separate their personality from their work. As a buyer, donāt be afraid to explore a kink because of unprofessional sellers who make legitimate, quality sellers look bad.
Second, how words are used during orders matters. As a personal example, I donāt like the word āloserā. I understand some people like this, but for me, I want to be dominated and donāt feel like a loser when Iām in the situation I want to be in. So it holds no meaning or value and I generally ask sellers not to use it. If a seller canāt do that it shows a lack of creativity, understanding, and knowledge. Donāt think that a specific word needs to be used as part of a certain experience and donāt let that stop you from exploring something.
Happy weekend! For the past week or so, I spent a little time every day going through the dash and liking posts. I did this because I noticed conversations where buyers say they get unwanted messages when they do this and also noticed sellers feeling bad because they posted something that got no attention.
I also added a little note to my bio that stated my likes arenāt hints. While I did get some unwanted messages, the reality is that I receive these regardless and the difference wasnāt noteworthy.
The majority of what I got was profile views š¤·āāļø. The nice thing was a handful of sellers who messaged and thanked me for the like and explained that they read my bio and didnāt expect me to answer. All that led to was brief, friendly conversation. Shocking.
This encouraged me that as a buyer, thereās no reason I shouldnāt engage with the dash. Show love to sellers who do a good job and block people who bother you.
As an aside, I saw less unblurred gussets and various exposed bits than I expected (partially because my block list is ever growing) however I did see enough bare feet to fill a gdrive. Feels like a lost cause, but stop undervaluing your feet. This just gives me more appreciation for the sellers who are judicious with their listings.
For me, knowing that there is such a diverse array of women to order from is key to my activity as a buyer on ATW. My intent in writing this post is to encourage sellers to embrace who they are and be confident in what they do.
I'm not attracted to someone because they fit some fanciful image in my head: a certain race or age or weight or bust or whether theyāre left-handed. This might sound contrived, but itās not: Iām attracted to beauty and I see that in countless women. I like to see sellers have confidence in their body, showcase their personality, and embrace what makes them unique.
I like that there are faceless and/or non-nude sellers that make you want whatever theyāll give you. Itās actually quite easy to see naked women on the internet and I have no intention to smell your face (although maybe I'm missing out on something there), so āhard noāsā arenāt a deal breaker to me. Itās also not a cliche that a woman who seems innocent and non-revealing can be naughtier than youād ever imagine.
Thereās sellers who focus on a specific, whether thatās a body part like their feet, a kink like their dominance, a lifestyle like their gym routine, etc. That focus gives me as a buyer the assumption that thereās a level of quality and familiarity in related orders.
If youāre a seller who thinks you need to ācheck all the boxesā and be āopen to anythingā for success, thatās a misguided mentality. If you donāt want to do something, donāt. I have zero interest in interacting with someone that doesnāt like what theyāre doing because it makes for a poor experience. While you might think you need to do it all for success (and some loser buyers may try to convince you of that), those who make a lot of money here and elsewhere all have firm limits that they stand on.
Itās a strange feeling to throw out a pocket p*ssy because itās too small. Far from a brag, Iām just bad at reading product descriptions. Thereās a part of me that wants to leave it outside for its new owner to find but that somehow seems worse. #gentlyused#itwasonclearanceforareasonapparently
As my previous (long) post was more aimed at buyers, my next few posts will highlight what I look out for and appreciate from sellers.
When browsing listings I appreciate effort, organization, and creativity. I like seeing when a seller has consistency and organization to each of their listings because itās not only easy for me to browse, but it shows a level of thought and personal touch. Following a formatting style for every title, unique descriptions, a theme to photo presentation, that sort of thing.
When I was a new buyer, I really appreciated sellers who had descriptions of their scent and how wears differ over time. I wish this was more common because aside from being helpful information, to me it conveys a level of attentiveness, plus it builds curiosity and desire.
Itās hard to decide who to buy from, so the effort and thought I see put into a listing is often a deciding factor. Itās a good way to showcase that youāre someone who extends that effort to your content.
If youāre spending hours a day on the site, consider using some of that time to learn the basics of a photo editing software, no matter how tech illiterate you are. Or consider using a spell checker, or even using dreaded AI to proofread (but donāt use AI to write everything for you, ick). Itās not like I wonāt buy from someone if they donāt write perfectly (and am understanding when English isnāt your primary language) but it can ultimately make you stand out.
There was a nice post the other day highlighting some of the community members who help new sellers and thereās a wealth of information to get from blogs.
I appreciate the positive feedback on my last post and it has encouraged me to yap more. The thoughts Iām sharing today are some bits of advice for buyers - these are things that have helped make my experience on ATW better. As a seller, you might appreciate the insight into my thought process (or you might not, which is fine lol).
1. Use the search features. When I look at buyer posts, I see very specific requests and asking about things that are advertised. Some of this is probably people who just want attention and donāt intend on buying anything. However I also get the impression some buyers want to experience being desired and wanted, and think the number of messages and comments they get is meaningful. ATW gives guys a unique experience to have women vying for them, but you shouldnāt misconstrue that as anything beyond a pay for play dynamic. The way an order is arranged doesnāt affect the actual quality. There are plenty of incredible sellers who arenāt ever going to see your post or you may never see from just looking at the fast moving dash. The search function has filters! If you want to find a curvy woman in her 30s from your country who sells thongs, you can specify exactly that! Iām not implying youāll never have a positive experience from making posts as a buyer, rather you might miss out on exactly what youāre looking for if thatās all you ever do.
2. Buy custom content. My initial approach to ATW was like being in a candy store. I wanted a bit of everything, to collect every google drive, and didnāt see the point of ordering from the same person twice because thereās so much out there. Why buy 1 custom instead of 50 videos? However custom content is what I most often go back to time and time again (and Iām not saying thereās no terrific drives!). Videos that sellers made for me years ago bring pleasure like itās my first time viewing. If all you seek out is whatās cheapest, shortest in length, or available right this second, youāll often be left feeling empty and unsatisfied. Guys talk about post nut clarity and feeling shame, which is certainly real and happens, but as someone with some objectively gross fetishes, custom content tailored to exactly what I like brings me bliss, not clarity.
3. If you like a seller, keep coming back for more. This might sound obvious, but over the years there are numerous sellers that I deeply regret not ordering from more before they disappeared. You never know what someone has going on in life or the extent to which your orders matter to them. And spoil your favorite sellers - tip them, send them a gift or buy them a drink or meal, etc. If someone is consistently fantastic they deserve more than just your kind words. Those that you connect with and can find mutual pleasure in orders with will, in one way or another, make your gesture completely worth it.
I have more thoughts that Iāll be sharing over the next while. Thanks for reading!
I've been on ATW for almost 2.5 years now and have spent thousands on orders during that time. I very purposefully don't have a profile pic or post on the dashboard. However, in looking at the dash lately I've found it's somehow become much worse, so I want to contribute my thoughts every once and awhile.
My first thought is one that gets echoed often, although seemingly not as much anymore. Unblurred gussets are not appealing to me and I block sellers when I see them. Not only are you giving away something that should be paid for, it's unattractive and takes away from the one-on-one experience of purchasing panties. Additionally, I wish the dash was more censored in general. Sellers should entice buyers to want to see more, not bend the boundaries of how much they show. To me, it's a turnoff and likely only appeals to someone that wants to haggle and be weird. I particularly notice this with feet - if you post your bare soles, why would I ever pay for feet pics? The overwhelming majority of the biggest, most consistent, and long lasting sellers on this site are very intentional with what they show for free and that's worth bearing in mind.
Also, I wish "buyers" that are actively here for months and never buy anything got banned. There isn't any ads on the site so their "engagement" seems as worthless as they are.