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HeWolf72

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***SELLERS, PLEASE DON’T TAKE IT PERSONALLY IF YOU SEND ME A MESSAGE AND I DON’T REPLY*** I prefer to reach out by myself, in my own time, when one of you catches my eye on the dash (if I like one of your posts/comments on the dash, please feel free to reach out to me though! In those cases, I will definitely respond since the like is essentially me reaching out 😊). Truth is, I don’t have enough time or money to play with even a fraction of the Sellers that I’d like to and I also have Sellers that I’ve played with in the past who I’d like to play with again. All of this makes it overwhelming for me at times, and I’ve found the best solution to be limiting my interactions to those I choose to initiate. I mean no offense by it and whether we ever play together or not, I wish you the best of experiences in your kinky ATW journey.

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I’ve been lovingly described as “a kinky, little f**ker” so there are a wide variety of things that can get my tail wagging. Some of them I can’t even really begin to understand or explain myself and occasionally something completely new will set me off. I believe that we are unique individuals and that, apart from our core essence, we are ever-changing beings with regards to our appetites what specifically works for us at a given point in time. The magic of a kink-based community like ours is the near-limitless opportunity it affords us all to play and experiment together.

The fetish that I most strongly identify with, and has been the focus of the vast majority of my play here, I discovered relatively late in life...

I like female feet.

I like the way that they look, from the delicate heels, up the graceful arches and silky soles, over the softly-padded balls all the way to the tips of your cute, little toes. 👣😋

With how they appear from different angles and all the ways that you can move and pose them, they are highly-erotic and a source of endless fascination to me. I also absolutely love the way that they smell.

For all of the wonderful women who have shared your feet with me, thank you for helping me to safely explore some of my kinks and fantasies, completely free from judgement.

About HeWolf72

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HeWolf72 CA

Does anyone know what happened to Peace? We seem to be losing a lot of Buyers and Sellers lately.

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🐺 A Wolfpup's ponderings:

Earlier this week, there was a post expressing amazement that a Seller was charging $60 for a one day panty wear. The post was removed after a number of Sellers educated him, but I challenge all Sellers to use this as an inspiration to reevaluate your pricing.

The only reason that $60 seems impossibly high to so many people on here is that they normally sell for a relative pittance.

If anybody thinks that $60 is too much to spend for a pair of worn panties, consider what it would cost a person to approach a random woman they find sexually attractive and ask to buy an item of clothing that she wore... *specifically worn* so that it’s full of her scent.

In this age of connectivity and social media, I can *easily* picture it costing me my career, likely a fine and possibly being put on a watch list, not to mention the public attention / shaming that would take place immediately. Also, depending on who witnessed the incident and how they felt, it could even lead to myself being assaulted, possibly hospitalized and maybe even killed.

In that light, would even $150 seem high? Does $60 still seem too high or does $30 now seem ridiculously low?

Bottom line is that it’s all a matter of perspective and Sellers are partially responsible for setting that perceived value through pricing.

On that note, of the things that I dislike the most on here is when Sellers are shamed for charging above market rates. It’s bad enough when Buyers make posts about it, but it’s even worse to see Sellers piling on too.

So, even if nobody is moved to increase their prices, I hope that they’ll be more hesitant to poke fun at the girls who *do* in the future. It only serves the cheapskates when you undervalue yourselves as a norm.

As always, I’m open to polite discussion and debate 😊 #WolfpupsPonderings

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🐺 A Wolfpup's ponderings:

This is perhaps my most controversial post to date. I began writing this months ago after seeing a lad in his 20’s calling out older men who request much younger women. Since then, there have been several other instances of shaming to varying degrees, further inspiring me to share my thoughts. I wrote this piece to offer some perspective to the community in hopes of increasing understanding and offering a mirror that may be helpful.

Before we dive into these tumultuous waters, I feel that a few disclaimers are in order:

1. These are my thoughts. I don’t pretend to speak for all older men or even *any* older men apart from myself. I do, however, believe that my experience is valid and may prove useful in raising awareness.

2. It may be helpful to remember that there is a difference between older men enjoying younger women *too* and enjoying them exclusively. I genuinely enjoy playing with older women as well as younger. As an old perv moving into his mid-50’s, most women I play with are naturally younger than I am, but I also enjoy playing with women who end up being significantly younger than I am.

With that in mind, here I go...

I have always engaged with this marketplace in a simple manner. While there are a multitude of different ways that my interest might be piqued, it boils down to: When I see something I like, I approach the Seller to play.

Ages are not a consideration for me. As long as the Seller is a consenting adult, I find them attractive and they’re offering the sort of things I’m interested in, then it genuinely doesn’t matter to me whether they’re 18 or 68 years old.

But, the real issue isn’t about a fixation with age in general, it’s the perception and gut-reaction at the thought of an older man playing with a much younger women. So, let’s get right into it….

Would a 25+ year age-gap be appropriate in our so-called normal lives? Of course not! But this isn’t a dating site; it’s an anonymous playground where we’re able to fully explore the world of kinks and maybe learn more about ourselves in the process.

So, while I am a self-admitted old perv who occasionally plays with ladies who are half my age or less, I have no illusions and no confusion about what this *is*. You’ll never find me asking to meet up with Sellers or expecting to chat for free. In fact, one could argue that those lines are less likely to get blurred where there*is* a significant age difference involved.

And since these experiences *are* purely fantasy experiences, free from the normal considerations of in-the-flesh encounters, I’m curious at what people perceive the harm is when an older man plays with a young woman on here.

I understand that people find it so distasteful in the normal world that they can’t fathom the idea of someone enjoying the experience as a fantasy role-play. I also get that parents are especially protective and may feel that it’s a threat for men to even entertain such thoughts.

While I’d certainly like people to reconsider how they view older folks that play with younger ladies in this way, I also invite them to consider those ladies in a different manner.

Viewing young women as victims being preyed upon by lecherous old men can be quite condescending. Just because they’re relatively young, that doesn’t mean that they are always h3lpless and in need of protection. Many of those young ladies are completely aware and empowered, having explored their sexual nature for several years (it’s only in our modern age that childhood has been extended so far into adulthood).

Having said all of that, I am not so naive as to believe that the fears of exploitation are unfounded and that all young ladies are equally mature or should be selling on here. I just think that situations should be viewed on a case by case basis and that the common, knee-jerk reaction of kink-shaming doesn’t solve anything and creates an even more toxic environment on the site than we already have.

Not all older buyers playing with younger ladies have bad intentions and not all younger ladies who play with such men are being exploited. Not even close, I’d wager.

Many of us older gents are especially respectful and appreciative. Considering the experience that *we* can provide them with, it seems a shame to insist that they restrict themselves to their own age group, populated by a greater percentage of the immature.

There are two more things I’d like to mention as a matter or experience and perspective. I’m going to choose my words carefully so that they are perfectly clear while causing as little offense as possible:

1. As I’ve aged, I’ve undergone the experience where middle-aged people no longer look “old”. When I was a young lad in my late teens / early 20’s, even people in their mid to late 30’s looked “old” (and people in their 50’s - *my* current age bracket – looked like they were decaying). Now that I’m in my 50’s, I see the beauty in older women, including their sexual natures. There’s nothing controversial or surprising in that and it’s a transition that many of you may have gone through yourselves.

However, what *didn’t* change, is my attraction to younger women. And, while it is entirely inappropriate to *act* on those attractions at my age, I feel no such need to allow those relatively recent societal norms to restrict my activities here. Being able to play with an 18-year old one week and a 50+ year old the next is not something that I could experience in my day-to-day life. Letting natural attraction be my guide is liberating .

2. I think part of the problem of accepting older men who play with younger girls on here is a lack of appreciation of the taboo. There’s something extra naughty about engaging in sexual fantasies with extremely young women. Not all Sellers are comfortable playing around with those concepts, but if proper respect and the right chemistry is involved, it can be extremely fun and fulfilling for both parties involved.

A final note for those who have made it this far without blocking me:

To me, it’s not necessary that we all agree, but the way that we handle our disagreements and treat different points of view is *extremely* important to me.

It’s been said in the past “Don’t yuk another’s yum” and that is something that I take *very* seriously. There are several goods and services offered on here that I simply don’t understand. Rather than turning me on, they turn my stomach, but I wouldn’t *dream* of making someone feel ashamed for enjoying that. I simply keep my mouth shut and recognize that the Buyers and Sellers indulging in it have their own thing going on that is none of my business and they don’t *need* my input on the matter.

In closing, I’d ask you to consider extending that same courtesy to taboo play and, in particular, to play between consenting adults of widely differing ages.

I hope that what I’ve said provokes some thought without striking too deep a nerve. I’ve tried to express my thoughts and feelings on the matter without being overly critical but not at the cost of clarity.

As always, I’m open to polite discussion and debate 😊 #WolfpupsPonderings

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🐺 A Wolfpup's PSAs:

As a Buyer who finds auctions to be an interesting addition (and have bid on them), I have some suggestions for Sellers listing items there:

1. Please set a sensible starting bid
What's the point of having us Buyers outbid eachother with dollar-store prices?

2. For the love of all things kink, please set a reserve price.
I'm sorry, but any Seller who's willing to take anything doesn't deserve anything IMO.

This marketplace is undervalued enough without making auctions a race to the bottom as well.

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Added a new photo > #ATWRoster2026

From the northern wilds of Canada🍁 weighing in at 195 lbs of aging, raging fury, The Lupine Lunatic 🐺 enters the ring!

Wrestling Name: The Lupine Lunatic

Personality & attitude: Elusive and barely-domesticated, this old wolf is all about efficiency. With matches often taking place well past his bedtime, his goal is to end things quickly and decisively before he tuckers out!

Entrance vibes: The arena is in total darkness before being bathed in a dim blue light as Ozzy's "Bark at the Moon" suddenly fills the air! The Lupine Lunatic walks to the stage in a hooded robe, both to hide the fact that he's a quarter-century past his prime and because of the aforementioned conflict with his bedtime.

Costume / ring gear: This old pup is old-school, wearing a classic wrestling leotard. This provides quite the contrast to his signature wolf mask which he keeps on at all times, presenting a menacing countenance even when his old bones are aching.

Signature Moves:

Bark at the Moon - an ass-drop from the top rope
For someone who sits on his butt all day, The Lupine Lunatic's ass is surprisingly firm so this move can end a match quickly!

Now you see it, Now you don't - this crowd-pleaser is reserved for when the Ref's back is turned
Depending on how heated the match gets 🔥🥵, this kinky little fucker will do anything from a simple "oil check" to more significant insertions 😈

Waiting for Darkness - a slow, technical ground-choke
Once this is set in, with both wrestlers laying quite still on the mat, it's difficult for the untrained eye to tell which wrestler is going to be taking a nap😴.
With each passing second beyond his bedtime, it's not always clear to The Lupine Lunatic either!

Thanks @Droux for hosting one of, if not *the*, coolest damn contest I've ever seen here! 🤩
I'm absolutely loving the entries so far and wouldn't have missed this for the world! Sooooooooo much fun!


HeWolf72 CA

So, another cool thing with auctions is how quickly Admin is fixing issues that are being reported to them. For instance, Sellers no longer have to worry about Buyers they have bl0cked participating in their auctions.

One Seller who has bl0cked me ran an auction and I don't even remember *seeing* it while it was active. It shows now as an ended auction but, even then, when I go to click on it, rather than showing me the Seller's Profile pic and bid history as it normally would, it gives the error message "This auction is unavailable"

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Some thoughts on auctions from this Buyer's perspective:

On the auction page, I had the good fortune of there being two Sellers I would especially like to play with *and* one of them putting an item up for auction that I'm interested in too (I'm not sure how often the stars will align like that in the future, but I think the fact that it has already done so at launch is a very good sign).

Some pleasant surprises:

I love how you can bid anonymously to avoid potential drama from other Sellers or from Buyers when you're in a bidding war.

I love how you're automatically refunded every time you're outbid, so you get to start completely fresh each time when deciding whether to up the bid again (IMO that's safer and psychologically much better than having the money held and trying to decide whether or not to add more to it)

So, while there are still definitely other things I'd like to see added to or changed on the site, this one is turning out to be better than I thought it would be and may have a real place here IMO 🤔.

HeWolf72 CA

Added a new photo > My entry for #AtwKinkyCalvesCoronation3

Thank you @STRA8 and @MissChanel29xo for hosting such a fun competition! 😊


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I've struggled with the "Saved For Later" list for ages. At one point I was putting the listings into a spreadsheet to be able to manage and keep track of them better, but then I got lazy and started doing it the normal way again. This resulted in a new discovery for me!

Once the "Saved For Later" list gets over 500 items, it starts to break down. At one point, it was only saving half the listings I bookmarked and now, at 532, it's not saving any of them.

There are far too many beautiful ladies on here with tempting listings and I don't have nearly enough time or money. Granted, it's a nice problem to have, but fuck *me* does it make things challenging! 😂😂🤣🤣

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I didn't expect auctions to have a huge uptake, but I *am* a bit surprised that not a single auction has taken place since the announcement. Does anyone have, or know anyone who has, an auction request going through the process? 🤔

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🐺 A Wolfpup's ponderings:

Beyond the kinks we’re exploring, we sometimes get a very true sense of the person behind the screen. One of the greatest distinctions we make, for both Buyers *and* Sellers, is how much that person actually cares for us as individuals rather than viewing us as a kink-dispenser (Sellers) or walking wallet (Buyers).

There are varying degrees, of course, and the dehumanization isn’t always explicit or intentional. It still stings any time we’re made to feel disposable and I’d like to share a study in contrasts today since I think it’s interesting and makes the point well.

Seller 1 :

This Seller and I really hit it off (in my reviews, she is the Deleted User whose review begins “Everything takes a moment with this gentleman, including the process of writing this review, because he IS the moment, and you certainly feel it when you are fortunate to lure him in! 🫠😉 “). The conversation was great as was the quality of her content. We also seemed to share an appreciation and desire for deeper play and I had already planned on placing another order with her.

However that was not to be, as she deleted her account mere weeks afterwards. Her goodbye post read:

“Thank you for allowing this freeing, safe space to explore my kinks, fetishes and sexual journey- I seriously have learned so much about myself, it’s strengthened and reassured me that there is seriously a space for a lot if only you see and live life with an open mind 🙇‍♀️”

So far, so good, but then she goes on to say:

“To my sellers alike - you girls and guys have encouraged and never gave me a dull moment … to everyone - because I enjoy being dramatic (obvs - it’s me!) THANK YOU FOR ACCEPTING ME INTO THIS COMMUNITY…. I will miss you all but for now, I know I have the real world of sex and swingers parties to indulge in with my hubby…!”

So, in her case, following her first Hot Wife experience the rest of us became chopped liver practically overnight, devaluing what we experienced together as less “real” just because we didn’t exchange body fluids 🙄🙄🙄

Seller 2:

This Seller also had her first Hot Wife experience while I was happily playing with her and planning another order.

The difference?

Rather than casting me aside and treating our experiences as less real, she continued to entertain my fantasies with as much enthusiasm as ever!

Make no mistake, she *is* having fun as a Hot Wife; like a *lot* of fun! 😈 (she’s gone on to do another session and is planning yet *another* one in the near future). However, no matter how much fun she has with that, she still continues to enjoy and value what *we* have. As a matter of fact, we have already incorporated her new experiences into *our* play a couple of times, making those virtual fantasies hit even harder and in different fun ways for us both!

I hope that this comparison has been an enjoyable and enlightening read, giving a little glimpse into my experience as a Buyer. The different way those two Sellers treated me following *their* new experiences makes *all* the difference to me. Bottom line is that nobody likes to feel used and discarded after serving their purpose, or for their needs and experiences to be viewed as lesser. I know that Sellers feel that pain a lot, so it may be reassuring to know that there are Buyers who can empathize as well.

One final point: Being slighted like this is one of those things where it only bothers those of us who feel deeply and value our connections. So, while people are free to go about their lives and business how they wish, leaving things like Seller 1 did is much more destructive to our community than it seems to be on the surface.

And that Seller 2, who is capable of being a Hot Wife while continuing to fulfill our fantasies on here? @BrookesBottoms – Thank you for entertaining this old perv’s fantasies for nearly 5 years and not letting your in-the-flesh experiences diminish ours in any way! 😍

As always, I’m open to polite discussion and debate 😊 #WolfpupsPonderings

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🐺 A Wolfpup's ponderings:

There are few things more satisfying for Buyers *and* Sellers than an ongoing relationship. Being a regular means that there’s the opportunity to explore your fetishes with a person you’re familiar with, building on everything that came before in a depth that simply isn’t possible on a one-off transaction.

Overtime you might also grow to know eachother in more personal ways and chat about all manner of things not related to kink at all. When Buyers and Sellers view eachother as multi-faceted beings with hopes, dreams and interests beyond our kinks, it’s a truly beautiful thing and can develop into true friendship.

This familiarity, however, is a mixed blessing.

While we’re enjoying what is essentially a Girlfriend Experience, we’d do well to remind ourselves of the primary difference between Buyers and Sellers.

Sellers pay to be here. At a *minimum* they pay 7 times what our completely optional Premium Buyer membership costs and that’s just for the “privilege” of messaging us Buyers and setting up orders (if they opt for Diamond to have access to the additional features, it’s double that). And, while the financial difference is significant, it pales in comparison to the demands on their time.

Where *we* can choose how much time to spend on here as well as the actual time that we make contact, Sellers don’t enjoy that luxury.

I encourage every Buyer to imagine what it would be like to receive messages from random people throughout your day making all manner of inquiries, some quite extensive. How would you determine how much of your time to invest in them and whether or not they were sincerely interested?

And after spending hours at this hit or miss business, how would you feel if someone wanted to chat with you just because they’d placed orders with you in the past; as if you had limitless time like a bored retiree sitting by the phone instead of an attractive Seller with interested Buyers lined up out the door?

Buyers – Please don’t lose sight of the fact that we are Buyers. Sellers can become friends to us, but they should remain as friends that we pay. Although the prudish and delusional may bristle at the comparison – this *is* sex work. It is unreasonable to make demands on their time beyond what we’ve paid them for. Don’t make things awkward for them by taking advantage of the fact that they enjoy playing with you and are hesitant to draw the line.

There is no need to take advantage when there are so many simple options to make things right and show that you value their time as well as your friendship.

If your preferred Seller offers a listing for extended communication, then it should be a no-brainer. Pay her the monthly fee and chat away. If they don’t have such a listing, consider sending them a tip for their time when you chat. Look at it as a coffee date (and if you are reluctant to spend even the price of a cup of coffee to chat with a gorgeous woman who entertains your kinks on here, ask yourself why that is).

As always, I’m open to polite discussion and debate 😊 #WolfpupsPonderings

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I'm still processing the info that a *complete* AI generation was allowed on here through a verified account. Making things even *more* ridiculous, the Seller looked *nothing* like her creation 🤯🤯🤯.

IMO, all profiles should be screened and audited regularly to make sure the Sellers are real. Otherwise, the site stands to attract less ethical sorts here who will steal sales from real Sellers and use it to fund their purchases.

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In a market where nobody bats an eye at £15 panties (and £50 is seen as *impossibly* high); where we Buyers are spoiled for choice having *thousands* of Sellers to choose from on any given day, each with dozens of listings (I currently have 480 listings Saved For Later), I'm not sure where auctions will fit in here.

While I like the idea of Sellers potentially being able to increase visibility and generate the maximum amount of excitement and payment for their items, I don't think the market is in any shape to fulfill that ideal.

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🐺 A Wolfpup's ponderings:

One thing that makes me sad and that I’ve seen happen a *lot* lately is when Sellers agonize over their ranking.

For me, “Top Ranking Sellers” is right up there with “Recent Visitors” as something that causes more problems than it’s worth and distracts people from the fun they should be having. Speaking for myself, I purchase from Sellers I find attractive with no care whatsoever whether they’re in the so-called “top” 0.1% or in the “bottom” 90%. I know a lot of Buyers conduct themselves similarly, making it even *more* of a shame how many Sellers get stressed about and take the ranking seriously.

So, rather than highlighting the Sellers’ rankings, I’d like to see more transparency on how we *Buyers* are performing.

Some ideas:

Post to purchase ratio
(Is the Buyer doing a decent amount of spending here for all their dash activity, or are they using the site mainly for free attention?)

Amount of average order
(That guy with 12 reviews may be placing $100+ orders on a regular basis while the guy with 100+ reviews mostly buys instant content and $5 dick rates).

Average number of orders per month
(Is the Buyer generally buying once a month, once a week or multiple times per week?)

Date of last order
(Has the Buyer been posting incessantly for weeks, but hasn’t placed a single order in over a month?)

I think that having this info visible on our Profiles and right on the messaging bar (alongside the shopping cart and verification status) would be extremely useful for Sellers when deciding how to engage with us.

As always, I’m open to polite discussion and debate 😊 #WolfpupsPonderings

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Does anyone remember when a new Seller would occasionally post their ID to the dash, thinking that's how to verify?

Remember how, in order to protect that Seller, scores of kind-hearted individuals would make their own posts in order to push that post off the front page(s) of the dash?

Back in the good old days when a post could remain completely visible on the dash for a half hour or more!

The overuse of the reposting feature in Diamond has fucked the community six ways to Sunday, but at least it's no longer as much of an issue when a Seller posts something that they *wouldn't* want people to see! 😂😂🤣🤣

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I don't follow many people (previously 21 - a mix of Buyers and Sellers). Of those, a Buyer has left (totally nuked their account) and two Sellers have also have announced they are leaving shortly. Is anyone else noticing an exodus? I've never seen anything like it in my nearly 5 years on here so am curious if it's just a coincidence or is a real trend 🤔

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🐺 A Wolfpup's ponderings:

In this place where we share such intimate details with eachother, the person behind the screen matters. Finding a person who will best meet our needs, occasionally requires a bit of probing which should always be done carefully and respectfully.

There have been at least two incidents recently which crossed the line, IMO. Both of these instances happen to be where a Buyer was trying to establish relationship status.

Exhibit A: The Buyer just flat out asked if the Seller has kids.

If you develop a relationship with the Seller and, in the course of your platonic conversations, she has spoken about her offspring, then it’s okay to discuss them. Otherwise, I would be *very* careful about bringing up the subject at *all*. There’s honestly no legitimate reason to and quite a few shady reasons that a Buyer would.

Exhibit B: The Buyer, in the quest to find out if the Seller was single, asked if she created couple content. The Buyer then went on explain how he felt it was morally wrong for women in relationships to be offering services on here

The fact that he engaged in deceptive games from the outset was bad enough (he didn’t trust Sellers to disclose their true relationship status, so used the couple content question as a way to find out if they actually had a partner or not), but the bigger problem to me which I’d like to address here is the needless moralizing.

One of the things that I appreciate about this place is how I can be open about my fetishes and not be judged by them. Society at large would mock and ridicule me for getting turned on by feet (for example), but here it’s not even an issue at *all*. Not everyone will share my enthusiasm or even understand it, but I am never shamed for it.

So, the same way that *I* appreciate being able to go about my business without being judged, I wouldn’t dream of criticizing a Seller’s lifestyle choices. If their partner is fine with them selling on here, who the hell are *we* to say it’s disrespectful to their partner? It absolutely boggles the mind!

Newsflash - A lot of people actually *enjoy* knowing that other guys also find their wife/girlfriend attractive, to the point that they’re willing to pay money for their worn items or to just see them in pictures / videos! And even if they *don’t*, the Seller herself often loves the extra attention. Why would you shame her for that, potentially taking away her pleasure?

Also, this isn’t a dating site! So, while it is okay for us to have preferences in regards to relationship status and is unavoidable for us to make judgments (as humans are wont to do), we should keep those judgments to ourselves and simply move on if the Seller isn’t a person we’d feel good about working with.

In short – we need to remember our place and what we’re here for (or
*should* be here for!). Let’s all have fun exploring our kinks together and not making things weird and uncomfortable!

As always, I’m open to polite discussion and debate 😊 #WolfpupsPonderings

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🐺 A Wolfpup's ponderings:

I have some uncharacteristically somber thoughts to share today. I’ve been feeling these for a while and as I see more and more instances of this over time, I feel the need to put this out there. There are Sellers who I genuinely like who are guilty of these on occasion. I truly hope that this opens up dialogue (internal or otherwise) and that no offense is taken.

This is about being *overly* supportive in ways that I don’t believe are helpful.

1. When a Seller makes up their mind to leave, please let them.
Telling them things will pick up again isn't helpful. What if they don't? And even if that would be true for you *and* them, maybe they don’t feel like riding out the really dead times to get to the next normal time.

Respectfully, you don’t know what they’re going through. Maybe they’ve agonized over this decision for months and believe that the best thing for them to do is leave. Who are you to interfere and cause them to question the situation *again*?

Finally, not to be an asshole about it, but there is no shortage of Sellers here.

Which brings up the second situation….

2. Perpetuating the myth that there are lots of Buyers for everyone. That’s right I said it. Myth. This market has been oversaturated since I got here over 4 and a half years ago and has only gotten worse with time.

Sellers flock here by the thousands, many attracted by false prospects of easy money (Hell, this site was even specifically mentioned on a TV show in the UK recently).

And Buyers? We find our way here, often by sheer chance, looking for something that we feel *should* exist. And once here? Last time I took a sample, only 20% of Buyers had 10 or more reviews by the end of their first year. The rest? 34% had 0 reviews, 32% had 1-4 and 14% had 5-9 (and given that we’ve entered the era of bots and other such fuckery, there’s no reason to believe that the situation has improved). Also, since reviews can be left for as little as a $5 US purchase, some of the reviews out there represent purchases that cost less than the price of a McDonald’s Happy Meal.

So, when I see Sellers who are traditionally beautiful, reassuring Sellers who are more niche that there are lots of Buyers for everyone, it really gets my back up.

There simply *aren't* lots of Buyers for everyone; you just don't experience the shortage because you're attractive to the majority of us here. Others have a hard time even covering their membership fee and would kill to sell even as much as you’re selling when you complain on the dash that it's slow.

I’ve seen ladies have their self-confidence absolutely *crushed* here to the point that they leave in tears.

So, again – if a Seller decides that things aren’t working out for her here and she makes the decision to leave, don’t interfere with that process.

As a Buyer, I don’t want to play with anyone who isn’t really feeling it here but are sticking it out because another Seller filled their head with as much bullshit as the “Get rich quick” folks.

This should be fun for *all* of us. You do you and let them do them.

Sometimes “kindness” is actually cruelty.

As always, I’m open to polite discussion and debate 😊 #WolfpupsPonderings

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Big tech is rearing its ugly, hypocritically-puritanical head again and is flagging videos on drives including those of @BrookesBottoms . Any suggestions for alternate platforms that would better meet our needs here would be most appreciated 😊

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