How I Met My First PayPig

Seller Findom Tips For Sellers Motivational Sellers’ Perspective

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In June of 2023, almost 3 months into my ATW journey, I met my first PayPig. Let me begin by prefacing that as an amateur at the time, completely new to the industry, I had no idea what the term ‘PayPig’ or ‘Findom’ meant, let alone entailed.

So, how did it happen?

At the time, I was speaking to an Aussie buyer who was prepared to buy my used heels for £150, however, he requested I wait until he was financially able to purchase them. Almost a week had passed, and whilst I was still talking to the Aussie, who at this point was becoming a ‘regular’, I was approached by a British buyer. He had previously purchased a custom from me a month or two prior, but this time, he was adamant he wanted the heels I was selling (the same pair the Aussie wanted).

I explained that they’re currently reserved. He was quick to offer double for them, bringing their price up to £300. I thought about his offer for a while, along with the fact the Aussie too wanted to purchase them. I thought it was absurd and I was honestly doubting the British buyer was willing to pay double, so I decided to introduce my own offer. The conflict between two buyers wanting my heels had me torn, yet, it was equally as thrilling! To resolve this issue, I told the British buyer that if he wanted them that badly, he can pay triple (£450) or they’ll go to the other buyer.

I assumed the British buyer was ‘all talk’ and I’d still earn a nice profit from the Aussie either way.

I was very wrong. The British buyer agreed and I set up the order. He paid, in full. (Don’t worry, there were no bad vibes between me and the Aussie, he completely understood and continued purchasing from me).

From here-on-in, the British buyer will be referred to as ‘loser’, as he’s chosen to remain unnamed for the purpose of this blog.

What came after the sale of my heels?

It wasn’t always rainbows and pay cheques. Communication wasn’t always linear. Mistakes were made by both parties. When building any type of relationship online, more often or not, tone gets lost in context, typos occur and statements can be taken the wrong way. What became apparent quickly was that clear communication was required and key to a lasting dynamic.

It required learning, listening and understanding. Whilst a ‘one-off’ findom experience does not particularly require such, a long-term relationship (of most kink related sorts do).

There were absolutely times where either myself or the loser had upset one another at the beginning, through miscommunication, assumptions or a lack of knowledge. Through communication, we decided to elaborate on what works and does not work, to be honest at all times. We decided that should an issue arise, we’d state such clearly and quickly to prevent either one becoming upset.

Each relationship and dynamic is different:

For losers, I learnt that his fetishes, kinks and everything within the relationship are psychological. At main, he desires communication, praise and punishment where necessary whilst reaffirming his inferiority. And then of course are his own personal requirements. Requirements that do keep the dynamic Dom/Sub but also keep both parties satisfied. For example, work commitments etc. No one can ever truly live in fantasy land 24/7.

Tip: Every individual is different. Whilst Findom is a broad area/kink, the individual will have their own preferences. Treat them as an individual and ensure communication is clear to truly delve into this successfully for both parties. This applies to all kinks/fetishes though!

Besides this important factor, the loser decided that he wanted to fund a pair of Louboutin’s for me (£800+ at the time). And whilst I had initial doubts that he’d pay for my used heels, (and yet he had), I still had doubts that someone wanted to purchase me a pair of red bottoms! In short, he did indeed do so. But this brings me to a very important topic.

After such transactions, and given that I definitely did not lack common sense along with the fact I was approaching the end of my Law degree, I knew how important it was to confirm and clarify on a few points. Did he have the capacity to make these decisions? Was he stable mentally and financially to do so? Did he understand the dynamic and legalities etc? Many things were discussed and confirmed in order for the dynamic to safely and consensually continue.

Where are we at now?

So, where are we in 2 years?

In short, £20k+ has been drained from the loser so far. He prefers to spoil me in ways that entail beauty, fashion (heels, shopping sprees, nail appointments etc), because to him, I am a Goddess. His Goddess.

But with this dynamic comes compromise. I too always consider my own preferences. And whilst I absolutely adore being spoiled and the powerful feeling it provides, I’ve also had him fund large home appliances and technology, debt clearance tasks and the opportunity to pay a large monthly bill recently.

This being said, the dynamic isn’t based purely on physical or monetary gifts only. For me, it’s an opportunity to express my dominant side through a kink related and dominating relationship. For the loser, it’s the opportunity for him to serve the perfect woman in his eyes, to spoil her with his wallet as he knows she deserves his money, his gratitude and his worship. To remind him of his inferior position and more.

Summary:

I’ve had 1-2 other findom experiences via ATW, and whilst it may have no relevance, I never once posted via the dash or otherwise to be seeking such. I never mentioned the terms ‘piggy’ or ‘findom’ unless it was directed towards those users. I never approached these users, they approached me.

Tips, not just for Findom: Being your authentic self can help you stand out from others. My advice is to refrain from using AI or Chat GPT as much as you can, because as a seller, I can tell it has been used, so buyers most likely can too. Tell tale signs are that being very similar language used even if within a different topic, over extended hyphen usage etc.

Utilise AI correctly. Need ideas? Generate them but put your own twist on them! Be unique, stand out! Rewrite it authentically based on that concept.

Do you have a niche? Great! Can you create a hyper-niche from that? Brilliant!

This draws this blog to a close, but I’m always willing to help other sellers out in any way I can. I wouldn’t call myself an expert but rather, someone who has learnt over the last 2 years from real experiences.

Love, Vee.

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