I Am a Sex Worker and Sexually Active; How Do SSRIs Affect This?

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Seller Sellers’ Perspective I Am a Sex Worker and Sexually Active; How Do SSRIs Affect This?

My name is Becca and I am a 19-year-old college student. To give some context, I have been taking Sertraline (A.K.A) Zoloft since my Junior year of High School. I was diagnosed with depression when I was 13 and tried Prozac but that did not go well… I was diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder (GAD) when I was 16 and started taking Zoloft, which helped immensely.

I stopped taking Zoloft in the summer between my Junior year and Senior year of high school until November of 2019 when I began having severe panic attacks multiple times a day. I still take Zoloft every night, but how does this affect my line of work and my own sex life?

I began my sexual journey when I was around 7 or 8 and found out what porn was. I began to watch and started to become a bit of a sexual being (or as much as anyone could when in the 2nd grade). I began exploring this sexual side of me by myself (as I didn’t have sex until I was 17).

I thought it was so fascinating and interesting but was deeply affected when mental illness became a part of my life. I had no sexual desires at all when I had not been medicated; granted, I had no interest in anything at the time. However, as I got older and moved into high school, my sexual urges came back again. I was still not on medication at this time and wouldn’t know how they would have affected my sexual life.

Medication and Sexual Arousal

When I finally did start taking the right medication, my doctor warned me about my sex drive varying much of the time and through social media, found out that others had difficulty becoming sexually aroused, getting wet, ejaculating, and for men, being able to get hard no matter how horny they are.

Now, as a college student who is about to turn 20, I have definitely had my fair share of sexual encounters. I am in a loving relationship with my boyfriend and I have opened up to him about my personal difficulty being able to get wet and being able to cum no matter how horny I am or how good it feels. Reaching the point of being able to cum is hard for me. Other people I know that take SSRIs have found it difficult as well. I began to be very self-conscious before meeting my boyfriend.

Meaningless one-night stands or having a small “situationship” still made me insecure after every encounter. I couldn’t get wet, no matter how horny I got. As a woman, yes, I do produce discharge, but that’s not getting wet. It has been a struggle for me, especially now, selling my used panties, selling pictures, videos, and especially during webcams.

I do get turned on about 95% of the time I am making content or products for my amazing buyers, but I really am only able to get wet when I’m ovulating (right after my period ends).

It has been very difficult to have to deal with the side effects of treating my mental illness, especially in my everyday life and my job. Since my job is to be able to satisfy and help explore sexual desires and fulfill one’s fantasies, I have struggled with it mentally because of the difficulty that SSRIs give me.

Advocate For Mental Health

Opening up about mental illness is something that I have always advocated for and always will, as it affects every part of someone’s life. I have discussed with other sellers how their use of SSRIs has affected them: some say it hasn’t at all, some have the same struggle I have of not being able to cum as much, getting and staying wet, and being able to maintain an erection throughout the course of sex or sex work.

Finding a partner who is so understanding of this has been life-changing for me. He makes me not insecure about this struggle of mine and makes sure to accommodate for it (if you know what I mean ;) ). However, having a partner to not feel insecure is not a necessity at all. Being able to know that this is a very normal thing to experience and have it affect many aspects of your life is so important.

I wish that I knew how common this was at a younger age, but the media does not like to talk about mental illness as much as it says it does, let alone sex, and the two combined? Forget about it.

Taking Away The Stigma of Mental Health and Sex Work

Destigmatizing mental health is something that I think so many people worldwide want to accomplish. The destigmatization of sex work is also something I’m sure this community feels is heavily important as well. The combination of both mental illness and sex work is something that commonly doesn’t get talked about, but having an open conversation about how this has not only affected me but how it affects so many people is something so important.

Talking to sexual partners, your significant others, or opening it up to seller/buyer relationships and having an honest discussion with whoever should take place. Taking SSRIs has an effect on people struggling with mental illness, and in this line of work or shopping for it, affects this aspect of people’s lives as well. Moral of the story: TALK ABOUT IT!