The Sub Sessions: Sniffing Scents Meets Chastity and Denial

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First, I don't know how many blogs are yet to come on the need to understand that not all submissives are the same in kinks, niches, experience of them, or mindset. Whilst many fetishes can cross over, the main point of these is that it is not a one-size-fits-all.

I'm Lee, and with the help of Summersubstoday, we're going to delve into what makes us tick. In my case, it will be about craving for women's scent. We’ll discuss each other's turn-ons in hopes it dispels the notion that all subs function and respond to messages the same!

Lee The Bone Ranger:

My love for the scent of a woman started completely by accident when I lost my virginity. I was extremely nervous but also carried away by excitement as she went to lay back and take her knickers off. As I had just stopped kissing her and, in my giddiness, went to kiss her again, I fell straight forward—and the landing changed my life forever!

She hadn't taken her knickers off yet, and I landed with my face close enough to smell her crotch and arse from the top of her thighs—and that’s all she wrote! I was immediately intoxicated and consumed by a feeling I'd never experienced before. I immediately forgot about sex itself and had to put my face right against her knickers; I was in ecstasy like I’d never known.

Whilst those thoughts of “I just want to do this and nothing else” consumed me, another thought entered my mind and shaped me into the man I am today: “What if she doesn't like this and thinks I'm a weirdo?!” (We’ll come back to that later!)

She did, in fact, love it—maybe even more than me—and it made her cum, still in her knickers, with my face there and her hands dragging my nose tighter to her the whole time! So now you get where my love of the lady's scent and the need to buy worn knickers (well, mostly thongs these days) comes from. But how does something so enjoyable turn into submission—and even humiliation?

Going back to “what if she doesn't like this,” I used to wonder where I’d be if she hated it. Would I have ever expressed my needs again? That was soon answered by a wet dream I had years later about a girl who used to bully boys in school. In my dream, she sat on my face in front of everyone while they laughed. That fantasy flipped my scent love into something next-level hot—and psychologically complex.

Psychology One: My love of scent is used against me. I’m made to be a bitch under a lady’s control because she knows I’m hers, powerless due to my obsession. Anyone “normal” would be stronger-willed—but not me.

Psychology Two:My favorite. It’s where, whether in play or real life, I absolutely hate it—but am powerless to stop. It’s ultimate submission, like being trapped in a wrestling hold, unable to take more until I cum. My need for a strong, smelly scent—one “normal” people would be embarrassed by—becomes my kryptonite.

Summersubstoday:

Personally, of all my kinks, the main one is chastity and tease/orgasm denial. Denial of orgasm is what I always come back to. I love to submit to a dominant lady, be locked up, and told when I can touch myself. I love all the associated acts too—edging, waiting, forced ruined orgasms. I love being teased, denied, degraded, and humiliated about my situation.

It likely came from a teenage experience. A friend made fun of me for a crush I had—right in front of her. I felt ashamed and upset, and I think that evolved into shame around sexual feelings. My kinky subconscious went to work, and years later when I discovered chastity, it just clicked. I’ve been “hot for it” ever since.

I have a huge range of other kinks, mostly under the “power exchange” umbrella, plus some that are more vanilla. What’s interesting here is how both our kinks might stem from similar roots, but led us to very different outcomes.

On Kinks and Relationships

Lee The Bone Ranger:

As far as everyday life goes, it’s blended in since finding ATW and having access to lots of beautiful ladies’ worn bits to enjoy! Relationships, however, were difficult until recently. ATW taught me to express myself openly. My most recent relationship was the first in a long time where I could talk freely and play with it. It was a whirlwind, but I’ve never been happier and I’m deeply grateful for that.

Summersubstoday:

My experience is different. I have a long-term partner I love deeply, but she’s not kinky and doesn’t understand my desires. I tried to explain once, but there was no interest. Our relationship is great overall, but our sex life lacks intimacy. ATW provides an outlet for me—a place to be seen, talk openly, and feel accepted. It’s helped me build confidence, and maybe one day I’ll be ready to talk with her again about it.

Interactions That Went Wrong

Summersubstoday:

There have been sellers who didn’t understand my kinks or didn’t read my bio. Some assumed I’d make exceptions for them. One woman insisted I’d be her sissy despite my telling her that’s not my kink. She couldn’t see the difference between a submissive and a sissy. It’s a common mistake—but it reinforces why it’s so important to read and ask questions first.

That said, most buyers are amazing. The good far outweighs the bad. People are human—messy, confused, figuring things out. Patience and forgiveness go a long way.

Lee The Bone Ranger:

There have been many situations, not all bad. Once, a new seller was aggressive in her messages, calling me names. I simply told her to calm down and read the room. Her tone changed immediately, and we ended up having a normal, friendly conversation. I even gave her advice, and it ended positively. Simple communication—and reading bios—can make all the difference.

How Our Kinks Mesh

Lee The Bone Ranger:

I couldn’t mentally cope with full chastity, but teasing and denial fit perfectly with the psychology I described earlier. It’s something I’ve enjoyed immensely when explored thoughtfully.

Summersubstoday:

It sounds like both of our kinks stem from shame around sexual desires—but we’ve sexualized that shame in very different ways. I like the scent of women too, but not the strong ones—it’s the humiliation of “this is as close as you’ll get” that drives me. This shows why sellers should never assume two subs want the same thing. Two buyers may both want panties—but for totally different reasons. The wisest dommes adapt to that.

Conclusion

This has been an enjoyable and liberating chat, but we hope it’s also useful—especially as a reminder for seasoned dommes and newcomers alike. “Submissive” doesn’t describe every kink, mindset, or trigger. Each of us is unique in what makes us tick.

Read the room. Always. And be lucky! xx

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