Rookie Report - My Experience of Buying Used Panties

LeeTheBoneRanger By LeeTheBoneRanger 3517 views

Buyer Buyers’ Perspective
Rookie Report - My Experience of Buying Used Panties

I have to stress that while reviews are flattering, they have come around as a result of me being myself which has been a result of how I've been treated by a good majority of sellers I've dealt with, so it's been a healthy circle and will lead to my point of writing this!

When I initially joined this site, total transparency, it was to see the lay of the land to see if there was a market for men being able to sell their used clothes and to see if there was a demand for them. Therefore, making it worthwhile to change status to 'Seller' but after no later than my first night it was clear I was never going to do more than feed my own addiction and had seen so much I wasn't expecting that I was more than happy to remain "just" a buyer!

As time went along, my natural curiosity along with being naturally inquisitive being self-employed, led me to get a video of tips for sellers from @Slvttybaby. I had previously got one of my first orders from her including my first ever custom video so already knew of her quality first hand, not to mention her reputation here. I watched the video and as a buyer, it was fascinating to see life on the other side and there really are some really good tips on there for any struggling sellers and/or new ones!

The video got me thinking of more tips for sellers but from a different angle, a buyer's view whilst also putting out what I like and what I can't stand. It's not one size fits all, especially with kinks but if one person gets help from this then my work is done and this won't be a waste!

What Do You Want from ATW?

First off, I'm a buyer but in the "Real World" I'm a Taxi Driver and as such am self-employed. So, the notion of doing what I want, i.e days / hours / pet friendly journeys / picking up from certain places / deciding on whether to do long-distance jobs, etc…. Yes, totally different but the fact I get to choose a lot of my work criteria would be equivalent to you as sellers deciding if you're sub/dom / somewhere in the middle, as well as activities and it is your choice!!

Total transparency, I came here for my love of natural scent but have been blown away by how other kinks of mine are covered BUT whilst I love certain things, if a custom video I ask for asking to be bullied and make me feel humiliated is made by someone who is awkward about being dominating, it's so awkward and is a far bigger let down than just being honest and saying NO!!

There are matches for everyone and what they're into so go with those rather than being greedy and trying everything just for the money, it will reflect on reviews and bad word of mouth! This is totally different to exploring mind You and if it's mutually agreed it's experimenting, that makes it totally acceptable!

Pricing

This is a controversial one, and I've seen some sellers I like very much do this, but hey I'm blunt. As a buyer, I don't need to see sellers preaching to others about their pricing policies. Comments like 'know your worth' I'm very much behind and an advocate for, but as a buyer who respects anyone who sells their intimate items and actively expresses that respect, it's a bit galling to see the comment and insinuation that those who "undersell" themselves make it expected from buyers who feel like anything else is "expensive"….

All due respect, but that's crap, if that sentiment is expressed it's not from a buyer, it's from a loser who wants their arse wiped through life, and for free and those people wouldn't look at spending money regardless of how much. Whilst me on the other hand, have put off buying in the past to make sure I can add a drink [ tip if you don't talk British;=] ] as well as whatever's being asked, I don't want a medal or an awwwwww for that because it's called real life so focus on genuine, and focus on being the best version of yourself. Confidence catches my eye before money, and obsessing about what anyone else is doing ain't a good look!

Messages

Disclaimer before I go into this one, even pre-covid times, I am more than aware mental health still carries a stigma and now more than ever it's essential none of us get lost in the shuffle and especially on issues relating to our sexuality and/or kinks/fantasies, etc. We can't allow ourselves to be judged or go under thinking no one understands so if a chat/rant helps and I can help even if it's just a sounding board, THAT'S ALL GOOD, D.M's open!.... ….

That said, and I'm sure this has been brought up in other blogs, but might help to understand the impact they have as they can be make or break if I or other buyers want anything to do with you moving forward.

When I joined the rush was very real as it's all so new but as time has gone on have added to my profile what I'm into and why I'm here. Besides, a buyer typically isn't going to have as many posts to read through so do some homework rather than ask why I'm here or what I'm into, etc. Those are questions you can ask a random at a bar you're attracted to but here it just smacks of laziness!

Nothing wrong with a message asking questions on what I may have posted but with me, I'm a danger-mouth and if I'm asked a question I'll answer it bluntly and if I have time in-depth, that's just the way I am. I'm open and that doesn't necessarily mean I'm in a position to buy right now or I'm after getting off on message, I'M JUST ANSWERING THE MESSAGE!! So bear that in mind too when sending the first message.

My best relationships here have grown organically with a couple of sellers feeling like long, lost friends but those were born from not smothering me in the first place!

That’s about it from me!

Yeah those have been just some of the things I've noted on here, other buyers will be different, that's life but bullet points I reckon everyone can agree on is

  • Do You, You don't know who's noticing, and if it puts anyone off, that's on them and their loss!
  • Be humble enough to be inspired by others when needed but wise enough to not be jealous, there's enough for all of us, just a case of discovering it!
  • Be brave and be honest, they can go hand in hand, make them want you for who you are, and not for what they want you to be!!
  • ENJOY YOURSELVES!! Ultimately we're all a long-time dead, respect everyone when it's due but ultimately love and respect yourselves enough to allow happiness!!

And that'll be My lot! I will see some of you and your used panties down the road;=]

Lee. Xx

P.S, I already know I'll do my own head in by remembering something I should've said once it's sent!! If You feel the need to ask anything I haven't said here or on my page or any posts, feel free to ask away if you want to!


By LeeTheBoneRanger

Scent is what brought Me here and massive part of My kink for being dominated so love them to absolutely stink so please don't feel any embarrassment during a wear,...

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