Understanding Kink and The Mind

By Kinks_and_curves 1925 views

As I have mentioned and written about previously psychology is a huge passion of mine and so is the world of kink. I wanted to write this blog to share a bit more about the two combined as well as why I feel the mind plays an important role in the fun we have.

It all starts in the mind

Arousal starts in the mind. Touch is important but your imagination can turn you on just as much. You can get lost in a fantasy. I can get turned on by words as much as I can by being touched and I think that is where the two things start to meet.

it has to be the right words as much as it is about being touched in the right place, you have to know what to do and say to really get me going and if you want to see my filthiest side. You need to be able to arouse my mind, to unlock the deepest part of someone you need to be able to get into their head.

Diving deeper

As I said above if you want to unlock the deepest parts of someone you need to get into their head. Lets face it how many times have you looked at someone and wondered what goes on in their head and only they truly know that but you can work on it together.

You can build a bond and with trust and time, people are more likely to open up and then you get a glimpse into their world, their thoughts, their deepest desires and wants. This is in no way about psychoanalysing someone or what turns them on, it is using the mind which is a very powerful tool in kink to have more fun and understand someone on a whole different level.

It is more fun

It simply makes everything more fun and exciting to really know how to push someones buttons. Anyone can touch someone and it feels nice but teasing with words or understanding just what to say or how to say it to build up that passion , that suspense and then to be touched, wow!

This is where there touch and mental stimulation meet and work together, a touch is better when your mind is racing in my opinion and to be honest if someone takes the time to understand me I will already be so turned on because they want to make it fun for both of us, time and effort are important for me when playing and exploring and I am way more likely to open up to you.

The role of the mind in kink

I don’t think you have to understand why you or anyone else has a particular kink or fetish. It may be interesting to know where it stems from but I don’t think it is an important factor into enjoying it as I have already mentioned. This is not about psychoanalysing someone because if you do that and try too hard to understand it can ruin it but the mind plays an important role in terms of building a bond, to help unlock someones potential (for example as a sub) to make the experience a mind blowing one.

I am naturally dominant and for me personally, domination and the mind are again closely linked. I could just bark orders at someone but I don’t want to, that is not what is about. It is about getting in a subs head and finding out how they tick, what they like, what they don’t and using it as a tool to help or relationship grow and to make our playtime a lot more fun.

The tease

I love to tease and I like to spend the time to get to know someone and understand how to drive them wild! Again this is where the mind meets kink and plays an important role, no two people are the same. We all think and operate in different ways so if you take the time to listen and understand the whole experience will be much better.

Thank you for reading. Stay kinky! X

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