What’s up everyone! It’s Hana here. The wonderful folks over at Admin are amazing and are allowing me back once again to contribute to a blog. My last blog was almost a year ago. I joined All Things Worn (ATW) around May 2021 and was here for about 2 months, I left for almost a year, and came back in late April 2022. I’m hoping to be around for much longer this time around, I do love selling goodies during the hot summer months ;) Today I’m here to write about wellness for both buyers and sellers!
Wellness is, well, to be well. Ok ok, that was a lot of “well”s, let me start over. Wellness is to be healthy, in all aspects of your life. Physical, mental, social, habitual, and spiritual. All the categories! I’ll be focusing on physical and mental wellness, with an emphasis on mental wellness, for this blog post.
Physical wellness comes from taking care of your actual body, which can mean a variety of things. Most commonly, we may hear that a good diet, regular exercise, and good sleep hygiene are key ways to take care of our physical health, and that’s true. There are other ways to help your body, too, though.
For me, a big one is to protect and nurture my skin, I’m always slathering on sunblock before I leave my house and slapping on that lotion before bed. Other common things I hear are limiting consumption of alcohol/drugs, keeping up to date on immunizations, listening to your body/pain (seeing a doctor when something concerning arises), wearing comfortable shoes, and using a good mattress.
Physical and mental health are often linked - two sides of the same coin. I mean, each of us is one creature, after all, it’s not like I can say “Hana is my brain, Hikara is my body!” Nah, I’m Hana Hikara, it’s all connected!
So, the first step in mental wellness is often to make sure your physical body is cared for. I work in healthcare, specifically mental health, and I’m always referring to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs:
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Proposed by Abraham Maslow in 1943, the hierarchy of needs portrays the five levels of needs we can experience and achieve in our lifetimes. It is a widely used psychological idea that in order to move up in the pyramid/ladder, the bottom needs must be met.
So, now that your physical body is all shined up and ready to go, what’s next? How do we make sure the 3lb mound of pain nerve-less lump of fat in our skull keeps doing its job? Let’s look at safety needs, this is things like having shelter and financial security. It can also mean having emotional security, which is a good sense of who you are and general contentment regarding your life and person.
I have found it especially helpful to limit my time on social media in order to develop and maintain good emotional security. I often felt insecure and desperate on social media when I looked at all the posts showing “perfect” lives and was almost addicted to the likes and hearts I’d get on my posts. I taught myself that my self worth is determined by the engagement I got from social media, and that’s just not true, for me or anyone else.
Insecurity and vulnerability can come from other stressors too, I always advocate for some self-reflection about what/why is stressing you out and making you feel like you’re not enough. I won’t be delving deeper into Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, and instead, I’m going to shift gears into some basic things you can do to promote mental wellness.
Let’s break this section further down into two parts: preventative and corrective.
Preventative will focus on things you can do to boost your already existing mental wellness, while corrective will look at some techniques that are commonly used to resolve and change unhealthy patterns that are negatively impacting one’s mental wellness.
Keep in mind that while I’ve organized these techniques and skills into categories, there are no hard distinctions and a preventative technique can easily be corrective and vice versa, depending on the context.
Today I felt (emotion) when (trigger) happened. My first thought was ______. This thought is/is not realistic, because ______. I reacted this way: ______. Consequences of my reactions: _______.
So it might look something like: “Today I felt angry when my partner didn’t put his shoes on the shoe rack coming in like I had asked them to, many times. My first thought was that they didn’t love me because they didn’t care enough to follow through even though they agreed to. This thought is not realistic, because I know my partner loves me from all the other things they do for me. I reacted by asking him how his day was and found that he was really stressed out and forgot about our agreement to not leave shoes in front of the door.”
Real prompt from one of my journals, and I’m proud that I was able to (after a few entries!) change this negative/unrealistic thought because my first few prompts were “I yelled at him” or “I cried in the bathroom about it.” Gosh, that Hana was so unreasonable.
I tried to keep this blog on the shorter/quick read end, but ended up writing so much! I still didn’t even get to cover a fraction of what I wanted to! There are so many ways to stay safe and well, and I hope you’re able to find a routine and techniques that work for you. Thank you so much for reading, and look forward to more time with this community!
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