The Importance of Being Yourself

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Seller Motivational
The Importance of Being Yourself

Kink, confidence and being yourself, are three things that are not only important but something I am passionate about and want to help others with. I feel it is so important for you to know you are awesome the way you are!

Enjoying Kink and Fetish

Enjoying kink freely and openly comes more naturally and easier to others, some people struggle with the idea of having a kink let alone expressing it in any way.

I want you to understand there is nothing wrong with having a kink or fetish. It is not odd or weird. Yes, sadly I think there still is a stigma attached but that is because people are put off by what they don’t understand or they just don’t have the confidence you do to be open about it.

I know it is easier said than done, I know that some of you are in a relationship and are scared to say something, and some of you feel you are the only one who enjoys a particular kink or fetish. I understand, and that is why I am so passionate about helping you.

I am able to be myself freely and I think everyone should have someone they can explore and play with. I have said time and time again that this is about more than money for me because it is, yes the money is nice but the satisfaction of helping you explore is amazing!

Confidence

It can be so easy to have your confidence knocked, especially if you don’t have a lot to begin with but something great about being a part of this community and selling and buying is your confidence will grow.

Confidence for me isn’t the amount of money I make or the number of sales but it is being told that a buyer is happy with their item or that they had a great time with me.

As I said above, some people do struggle with enjoying kink and that could be because of a knock in confidence. When you are already nervous and express yourself whether that be in a post or a poll or even in your bio or telling someone and somebody makes a comment or kink shames you then it will make you question yourself. Again, easier said than done but remember you are not weird or in the wrong, they have an issue and not you.

I see buyers supporting buyers and that is great, just knowing that you are not alone in enjoying something or seeing other people being able to open up could give you the boost you need. The people you see enjoying themselves freely may have felt they had no confidence once, you can open up and you can have fun, small steps!

Why Being Yourself as a Seller is Important

When you lie to yourself you lie to the buyers. You are not offering what could be the best experience for either of you.

You have to be honest about what you truly enjoy, what kinks you are happy to indulge in and ones you aren’t.

You offer something nobody else can, that is being you. You are unique and you are fine the way you are! You don’t need to offer everything in order to attract buyers you just need to be yourself. Now I obviously can not speak on behalf of buyers but they prefer a genuine experience. By being yourself you both gain something, you are comfortable and happy and so are they!

Buyers, Just Be Yourselves

I don’t want you to be anything but yourself with me, bonds and relationships can’t be built on the fake ground.

If you truly want me to help you then you have to be honest, you don’t have to be embarrassed with me. If something is not for me I will politely tell you so.

I am here to help you, we can take small steps together.

Also, it is a 2-way street. If you want us as sellers to be ourselves and have a great experience then you need to do the same.

You may feel that you have to hide the real you, but you don’t! This site is a community, a place of like-minded people.

You Are Fine The Way You Are

Odd, weird or different shouldn’t be words used in a negative way! I am not vanilla or straightforward as a person at all. I have multiple sides to me, I have a kinky side, a filthy side, a dominant side, a submissive side and so on and that is just how I like it!

I like who I am. If someone thinks I am weird, cool! Why does that have to be meant as a bad thing?

I don’t label myself and I don’t let others dictate how good I feel about myself.

You are fine the way you are, having a kink doesn’t make you any less deserving of respect neither does being a seller or a buyer.

Let Someone Be Themselves

You may look at a post or a listing and think that is not for me and that is completely fine, not everything is for everyone and you should always respect that!

Let someone enjoy what they enjoy, just because you wouldn’t doesn’t mean it is ok to shame someone or even make comments, just scroll past!

Supporting Each Other

Sprinkle some encouragement around, and show everyone they are welcome.

Kindness and manners cost nothing and by working together we can give each other a little boost.

If you like what someone is offering or has to say, tell them! If you can offer support or help in any way let someone know. A friendly welcome to someone new or opening up about your experiences all helps.

Let’s show each other why this is a great place to be that is open to everyone.

Helping You

I have spent many years learning to like myself and now I have much more confidence. I don’t shy away and hide and neither should I and neither should you!

I say it a lot and I said it above that I get a lot of satisfaction out of helping you explore and I really do. You are who you are and you like what you like and you shouldn’t try and hide it. Ask yourself why you should when you see others around you having fun. You are just as entitled to enjoy your kink and fetish as much as the next person

Watching someone grow in confidence knowing I have been a part of that is amazing, you deserve to join in and have fun and you deserve to like yourself!

Don’t Let Anyone Tell You Differently

If anyone tries to make you feel less than what you deserve then then ignore them. I am saying that to everyone here.

It does not matter if you are a buyer or a seller you are awesome. Don’t second guess yourself and certainly don’t let any negative people take up space in your head!


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